Where to meet Lesbains

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im 17 and i was wondering where do i meet other lesbians i want to try to make some friends and possibly a girlfriend any help would be much appreciated i just don't know where to look!! !!

Thanks

to anybody who answers this!!

Where to learn to spell?

This issue isn't so much spelling as grammar. Punctuation and capitalization are needed.

Les bains sont dans la salle de bains.

Is this really the best that can be done for an honest query? - To just make fun of someone's spelling? There's no justification in being such a snot.

skullsandfire: FINDING lesbians isn't so much the difficulty (they're everywhere and into everything )...I think the difficulty may be more often in recognizing them when you've found one/them and getting them to open up to you while still feeling safe from others who'd behave in hateful ways (and yes, unfortunately, those behaving in hateful ways sometimes include lesbians themselves...possibly from an internalized homophobia and/or other version of loss of overall compassion). ...I don't know the area in which you're living, but some possible meet/greet places could include a community college 'club', a 'Women's' Center, of course a Gay-Lesbian-Bisexual-Transgendered Center, sometimes a Denny's or a local coffee shop is an unofficial 'hangout' for lesbians, Dykes on Bikes might have a local chapter near you, some online chat groups that - in turn - could help direct you, an 'MCC'-type church sometimes has postings (on the church grounds themselves, if not actually online) offering support, you could get involved as a volunteer for a Pride event (festival, parade, march, etc.), and you could look for businesses that are LOO (lesbian owned and operated) or gay/gay-friendly (this could be done by getting a complimentary copy of a local/nearby community Gay Yellow Pages, contacting a nearby Gay Chamber of Commerce, or by looking for storefronts that prominently display 'colors' - especially the Rainbow Flag).

Finding and being accepted into a 'group' can take a lot of time...Often it's worth it. Good luck.

Truth - although interestingly, the OP doesn't seem to have returned - at least, hasn't logged in to the forum - since making that post.

Alas, she has not returned to read my unfunny mockery written in pidgin French.

i cant spell great you don't have to make fun of me

sorry i did not put punctuation's and capitalization's you know how bad i feel when others people with aspergers make fun of me

Dae is right. This question deserves a real answer. Is there a place in the forum where people whose areas of interest include grammar, punctuation, and spelling might be able to indulge in some lively discussion? If not, perhaps someone might care to create one. Think of the excitement and satisfaction to be had as various points are brought to light!

As for the issue at hand, there are some environments that are not specifically gay but where being out is acceptable and where you might find some other lesbians who share common interests with you. If you hit upon a good one, you might find that autism is also generally considered no big deal.

What I recommend is that you try out groups that engage in activities you like, especially if those activities tend to attract people that the rest of the world might find geeky or otherwise unusual. They're more likely to think what other people call "weird" is actually cool. I'm in the Society for Creative Anachronism. We recreate the fun parts of the Middle Ages. Other people might think we're strange for dressing up in funny clothes and running around doing stuff that looks silly to them. But we have a pretty good time, and we take into consideration all kinds of things about people in order to include them. You should see the lengths those who like to cook will go to in order to make sure that everyone can eat, even though some of our members have a wide range of food allergies! The SCA is an international organization. If you think you might like this sort of thing, try Googling the SCA to find a chapter near you. The group as a whole is so large that, even if you don't hit it off with the first people you meet, there are lots of others to get to know. But there are also small meetings, practices, and events where being around people is more manageable. You might be able to e-mail someone in your local chapter to get a feel for things before trying to show up anywhere. That could really help.

In any case, I think the best way to find a girlfriend is to do things you love and hang out with friends who really value and respect everybody. The more you do that, the more appealing you'll be when you find that special woman who's been waiting just for you. I had to wait a long time to be ready, but it really did work for me. Once you find her, keep on doing the stuff you love, trying new things, and seeing your friends. Relationships last better if you do that instead of getting too wrapped up in only being with each other, doing all the same things together all the time. Besides, going into new situations and socializing can get even easier if you're with someone, so you'll like going out into the world even more. You'll sometimes want to do your own thing, but you'll also like doing new stuff and meeting people together. So, don't let your world shrink to just the two of you once you're together.

Sorry for my post to be so long winded. I tend to do that a lot... Anyway, best wishes to you!! !

Yeah, I find that "Tracking someone down" doesn't usually lead to happiness and success - if you let things happen naturally, then things will work out : )

Plus you can't really say 'Where can I meet lesbians?' as if there's some sort of location where they're corralled up If you're asking a question that blunt then may as well return with an answer the same - a gay bar...

Oh god... ironically I seem to have named the corral ; P

I, too, am wondering where to find lesbians. Namely, lesbians with Asperger's like myself.

I really enjoyed readin your advice, Dae, and Mindwithoutwalls. Sounds good.