Well the first one got locked because you said you 'abhored' homosexuality, but then claimed that you thought it was OK which was a little confusing. The second one was locked because it sounded as if you were suggesting that gay men aren't 'real' men.
From your posts there and others I've read you seem to be a young man who is trying to learn what it means to be a man, and how to gain respect and behave honourably. Your questions are often a little vague, which is perhaps because you are not sure exactly what you are asking.
There is no one correct way to be a man: what is considered correct in one country or culture is incorrect in another. It is something you have to figure out yourself, and it will be influenced by your family, your experiences, your faith, culture and location. You have to decide what sort of man you wish to be and go from there - and of course, that idea might change as you get older. Gaining respect is equally difficult, not everyone admires or appreciates the same characteristics. You need to decide who your target audience is and then act accordingly. For example, some people will give you respect if you drink alcohol, but for others that would cause them to lose respect for you (this is just an example of course, you are 15 and therefore should never drink alcohol!) Honourable behaviour is also subjective - again you have to decide what is correct for you. This period of figuring things out is really normal for teenagers, almost everyone experiences uncertainty about the person they want to be. I am 26 and it has taken me a long time and a lot of thought, reading, prayer and discussion for me to decide on the woman I want to be. So take your time.
In the meantime, be very careful to try and phrase things accurately and thoughtfully to avoid offence. If you are not sure if something is OK or not you could check with a mod before you post it.
20 Jul 2012, 2:20 pm
