Heartache and Wonder, I need advice.

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Thank you all for your advice, the majority of it makes sense. And to tell the truth, I've been taking steps to try to detach from the situation. I've been trying to get in the mode of seeking other companionship. I've stopped going to AA/NA meetings with her for about 2 weeks now.

I am very much in love with her. But I DO feel I can't trust her anymore, at least not until she is finally disillusioned about this other guy, whom she's been obsessed with for so long.

The drugs are not an issue between us anymore. She has seriously chosen her rock bottom, and she IS committed to recovery. It's only her connection to this other guy that remains. And it will only remain until she has to choose between her sobriety and him.

I don't think she's evil. I just think that she doesn't realize the extent of the pain she causes by holding me at arms length, not letting me escape or get closer.

In all honesty, I think I just need to move on and pursue other dating situations. Maybe it will shake her off the fence she is sitting on. Maybe she'll finally have mercy and let me go on to find a happier life.

I'm not sure which outcome I'm hoping for.
Actually, that's BS. I hope she'll chase.

well she is always tring to bait and switch you for that junkie guy... maybe what you need to do at the very least is show her what it feels like to be on the other end of that... not a vengeance thing, but just a demonstration...

LOL you are refreshingly honest for an NT! I mean that in the nicest way possible . Such a nice guy as yourself should really have a nice girl, you know.

You should try Al-Anon.



Oh, you think at that point she'll suddenly become trustworthy?

Think again.



Quit being such a victim or I'll lose patience with you.

You have a choice in this situation.



This won't end well. You need to eliminate her from your life.