Help, I'm very confused

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Ok so first of all, I'm a girl and I'm bisexual, but not 'out' yet.

There's a girl in my class I am very attracted to; she has been doing some things lately that make me think she might like me too. The problem is that I don't know what to think about this, since I don't know if she's joking, because I can't believe someone like her (popular, beautiful, everyone likes her) could like someone like me (I barely talk to anyone at school).

These are my theories:
A) She really likes me.
B) She was just joking the first time she did it, but maybe she realized my reaction was not normal and she likes to make fun of me behind my back.


I have absolutely no idea of what I'm supposed to do. I don't want to make her think I don't like her, but if I confused everything I don't want to say or do something inappropriate.

I would apreciate your help very much, I don't have anyone to talk to about this.

By the way, this is my first post here but I've known I have AS for over a year (though it hasn't been officialy diagnosed).

many aspie men tend to overestimate a woman's attraction to them because they themselves are attracted to the women. It's selective perception, and I've fallen victim to it myself...

Check out this Q&A site for youth, reconnecting.ca/content.xjp?id=309. They have a safe place to ask and learn.

I wouldn't do anything personally. She might well be joking and you could end up getting hurt. Just relax and play it cool. It would help if you say what shes acting like - how is she flirting etc.

I suck at figuring this sort of thing out. When I get completely frustrated by it, I just ask the person. Look, I'm confused, are you actually interested in me, are you just messing with me, what's the deal?
Certainly not the smooth way to do it, but I'm not patient and I don't handle frustration well. And then I know, one way or the other.
People rarely talk straight out, so when you do it, you'll often startle the truth out of them.

Yet, my people skills still suck. Oh well.