Don't know what to do.

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Well this is the only thing in my life that isn't statisfied and I don't like the idea of spending life alone. I hate my condition for making so in capable of finding love at all. I've made some sh***y friends in the past that haven't made life good. I ask if they could help but they didn't really help rather brush off. Weird that. Thought it was suppose to be the girls that I fail to earn their love but whatever. I am not sure what is wrong other than maybe I'm not attractive enough or I just can't show the right emotions. I don't know but this is one thing I want to change but I am getting no help from the real world and I am tired of this accident crap. I want to make changes not hope for them. Anyway ask questions and I will answer what I do and you can tell me what I am doing wrong. Please help.

Are you a girl or a boy?
How old are you?
Did you get any training about social cues?

I am male.
I am 20 years old.
No.

Recognizing social cues is one thing-knowing how to respond is another. That was always my biggest problem.

This is a book review that I wrote almost exactly a year ago. I think you might like the book. The review is the truth as I see it. There's a website by the same name as the book. I'd be very interested to hear your opinion of it, if you read it.

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Sonuvagun, somebody finally figured out what women want - and he's written it all down in Dating To Relating - From A to Z. More specifically, he tells us what women want in a man.

The author, Mr. L. Rx, says he figured this all out by observation. He used a sizable sample - 700 dates. He's written a book about that too, the predecessor to this one. It's called How I Got 700 Dates in One Year. The results speak for themselves - this guy knows women.

And how do I know that? I am one. A woman, I mean. So are many of my friends, relatives and coworkers. What Dating To Relating - From A to Z has to say is true of the women that I know.

Ordinary dating gurus turn guys into robots, hopelessly repeating the same approach until they stumble upon the one type of woman in the one type of situation who will like it.

The strength of Dating To Relating - From A to Z is flexibility. It teaches how to approach different types of women in different kinds of situations. A guy who learns from this book could be attractive to any woman at any time. An extravagant claim? I thought so - until I read the book. It goes on to teach how to develop a relationship, the different types of relationships, and how to maintain them.

A useful feature of this book is that each chapter is complete in itself. You can read the most interesting chapter without wondering if there are important points in other chapters. Each chapter can stand alone.

Dating To Relating - From A to Z is a terrific book. I think it could live up to its claims, and I recommend it.
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I think I try the book but I don't if it will help, I have read books on this stuff and doesn't seem to help at all. Maybe this will work I don't know, just as the title of thread says.

I would like to meet someone who writes like I do and loves reading but I don't the library is the best place. The town I live in is small, not very small but small enough and most of the girls don't have an interest in this sort of thing.

Does your town have a volunteer centre? Ask them if they've got anything that might be appropriate for you. You'll meet people while you help. Or ask the churches if you can help out with something.

For me, volunteer work brings my self-esteem up. I know that's not what's wrong but it never hurts to get a boost? And it's always something simple, maybe an hour here or there, and on the receiving end they're blissed out because they can't do it themselves.

I use this for cyber-volunteering, but I just noticed you can put your zip code so you could see what's needed locally -
www.volunteermatch.org/
(note - it's .org not .com)

Sometimes nice things happen when we're doing something else, y'know?

You're right - I'm outside of USA too, but I use the cyber (virtual?) button. I use that because I'm housebound.

I just finished proofreading grant applications for a hospital in Bangladesh. They couldn't do it themselves, so they were stalled. Imagine, something so easy for me, freeing up their funding. Before that I was translating letters between children in Haiti and their "godparents" in USA.

Have a look, maybe, at the virtual stuff. That's why they call it Volunteer Match - you pick what you feel like doing and they offer you matches. This isn't the matchmaking you were looking for. But it feels *so* good to make a positive difference in this world.