Do you think you will ever get married

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I think there is a good chance that I will be married someday. I would like to think out of six billion people on the planet that I would find at least a couple of people that I am really compatible with. I also think if you have the right attitude things will fall into place. So yeah, I like my chances.

I've been married for a while now; have children, mortgage, minivan - the whole package. Got married quite by accident, to a woman for whom I felt not much in particular, but who was taken with me. Lonely as I was, I allowed myself to drift into a life with another.

I would advise against a loveless marriage like this one. Better the pangs of regret for what "might have been" than the daily death-march.

Only if I can become independent enough & have enough money to travel & do the mail-order bride thing[/quote]

Why would you want a girl all covered with postage stamps?

Very good chance that I will at the rate that I'm going.... Hopefully that should be in about 2 years.

Doubtful.

I wouldn't rule it out with the right person though. I'd have to be 5000% sure though.

At the moment the only offline social contact I have is because of my orchestra... and I'm somehow meant to meet someone and get to know and like them well enough to want to spend my life with them?

I'm not ruling it out, but as things are it seems a doubtful prospect.

No, I don't think so. I also don't think anyone will ever love me.

This question can be interpreted in one these two ways:

Do you think you will ever get married? = Do you intend to get married in the future?
In this sense, probably not. I don't want to deal with a woman yelling at me every day over trivial things, like a plate sitting in the wrong spot; insulting me for my usual male interests; "having a headache" every night; and then divorcing me, and taking half my assets. I'll end up worse than Al in the show "Married with Children".

Do you think you will ever get married? = Are you going to find someone who will marry you?
In this sense, of course. I'll find a wife the same way I've been finding dates: by lowering my standards far enough, so that I'm the best catch she can get. But while a less attractive wife provided limited infidelity insurance, so to speak, it still doesn't stop her from treating me the way I described in the previous paragraph.

I was married for about 10 years -- ages 25 to 35 -- and am now divorced. I live with my GF of about 4 years, and things are just about perfect. I really wonder whether we want to screw them up by getting married. As it is, I feel like we make sort of a daily commitment to each other to stay together, which keeps that commitment and our relationship in the forefront of consciousness. We've actually talked very little of marriage. The first time it came up was last summer when we drove past a David's Bridal salon. My GF made kind of a snarky comment about marriage, and I was totally shocked. I just assumed she wanted to marry me! It didn't come up again until I couldn't hold it in any longer -- a few months ago. I told her out of the blue how shocked I was last summer at her remark. She explained that every marriage she's ever known (including her parents' and mine with my ex-wife) has been a failure -- that she just doesn't want to sign up for that. I told her that I understood but that I wanted her to at least keep the possibility open. (Neither one of us is really in a position to get married NOW, so it's not an emergency kind of thing.)

I thought I was OK with that, but clearly my subconscious was not. Apparently, I said some things in my sleep a few weeks ago (probably right around April 15) about our filing our tax returns separately. She brought this up later when I was fully awake. And she hinted in kind of a flirty way that she is reconsidering her "moral stance against traditional marriage." But, it was clear that she didn't really want to be pushed on it right then, so I left it alone for the most part.

Basically, it's pretty clear to me that if I really want another marriage that she would be willing. But, strangely, as soon as she said that, I kind of retreated. IDK ... are we going to take this totally special and truly unique relationship and run it through the cogs and wheels of the New York City marriage license bureau? Stand in line behind a bunch of Russian women trying to get their green cards? All in order to get a certificate that tells us (in a pathetically inadequate way) what we already know -- and, like I said, decide for ourselves every day we decide to stay together? Marriage is kind of a singular event. On the other hand, I've woken up and decided that this is the woman I want to be with for the last 1500-ish days in a row. I kind of want to leave well enough alone! I guess my only hang-up is the fact that I don't think I want to be an 80-year-old boyfriend. Hmmm...

If you had asked me that 5 years ago, I'd have said yes. That was before it occured to me how many freedoms I take for granted would be impractical in a marriage. Every relationship I've been in involves being expected to call/text my partner throughout the day and display affection towards them constantly. It's like they get disappointed if that kind of stuff dies down.

I'm really drawn to the idea of partnering up with someone in the symbiotic sense (us helping eachother through life). If I meet someone who I want to treat in congruence with Kant's "Categorical Imperative" (I want to make her happy for it's own sake and not just to get some play out of it) and if she insisted on getting married, I'd do it.

No probably not. I have no future anyway.

I cannot drive a car, I have recurring vomiting attacks from time to time especially when I'm inside a moving car and other health and emotional problems.

I have no job, I am unhealthy and cannot drive a car so marriage is of course out of the question.

Probably not. I'm very skeptical about marriage. I wish I met someone who could change my mind but it's not likely to happen.

I want to, but I don't know if it'll ever happen.

I'm actually not pro marriage I would like to have a girlfriend :3
But i'm only 16 so i actually don't know yet if i get married