Misogyny

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I think the OP has a rigid perspective of human relationships. People come together and stay together for many different reasons. It's true that you can look at the formation and maintenance of a relationship as something potentially tiring and could put you off if you believe that you would always have to continuously prove that you were worthy even after the initial efforts of "juggling".

I'll let you in on something...not every person on this planet treats a relationship in a manner similar to a financial investment. There is the possibility of meeting somebody that wants to be with you, simply because once they have begun to know you they want to finish the book...and want to help write the unwritten chapters. But then life is so uncertain and the chaotic nature of it all sends my head spinning in a million directions at once...how would I find this person? What if I screw it up? What if I find them, all goes well, and then they get hit by a truck?! Oh god!

Stop. Breathe. If this is at all familiar then here is secret number two. All of that chaos inside your mind with a multitude of negative outcomes playing out and scaring you off wanting a relationship is normal. The cure is to hard reset. See it as a memory leak. It will only get worse. How to hard reset? Blow your load inside a member of the opposite sex that makes you physically react in a very positive manner when you notice her. That is the only true way for a male to reset these thoughts and make you truly realise that meeting a person in the right situation for things to prosper can happen, requires some effort on your part to be part of the world, and shouldn't be stressed about because life serves it or it doesn't...you don't make that ultimate decision.

In your situation, as I understand it, I would recommend you find yourself a lovely girl that needs a dollar...what a coincidence, you need sexual attention...and let the exchange take place. Don't listen to the chicks mate...they don't realise that female orgasms exist to encourage them to allow us to mate with them...before high power jobs and exotic sportscars ruined the situation and led to a decline of actual fulfilment...but for men it is more than a base urge for purely reproductive ends...it attaches us to a woman emotionally, stops us from going completely batshit crazy, allows us to feel the warmth and see the colour in this world, and allows our brains to stop worrying about the completely bizarre behaviour of women...if only for a short time.

All the best,

Guybrush

OP is an obvious troll, why this thread is still open I don't know.

Hating one gender over the other is extremely illogical. I'm a misanthrope but not a misogynist.

This post says that you are someone who doesn't feel worthy or good enough to participate in the dating game because you think that you will ultimately be rejected or that the outcome will not be positive in the long run.

Perhaps you are assuming that you lack what women want without actually trying to get to know them and their preferences? Perhaps you are being stereotypical and generalizing the desires and needs of every girl before even making an effort to get to know them. Maybe you are the one that prejudging them by showing bitterness and being resentful when you don't even know them, maybe if you opened your mind and stopped simply viewing them as sexual objects or accessories to acquire, you will find a partner that respects you.

Prostitution and rape are illegal.

Judging by the replies I am more alone than I thought. There were no remedies suggested I would consider either.

Except that I've already been in therapy for years. I am also an atheist and decidedly amoral. Misogyny seems to be an unalterable part of my character.

Am I the only one with contradicting instincts?

He chooses it not.

I'm a celibate virgin. I've never asked anyone out, nor been rejected. Neither have I been asked out.

Early on in my life I decided to avoid romantic relationships. Even though I crave the sex, an actual relationship sounds like hell to me. Also being a virgin helps solidify my 'outsider' status.

Yeah, it's pretty common here.
I would say the remedy is to just stop thinking of women as something for you to "get"/acquire, and separating them mentally into attractive/not attractive,
but feelings aren't always rational.

See a psychiatrist, maybe?

VW: he said he hates them because he knows he can't have them. That would seem to take precedence over any choice.