Getting to know a person?

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I have been going out with an other Aspie that has a lot in common with me. We have a lot of fun talking about our common special interests but that is all we have talked about. I would like to get to know what kind of person he is as far as beliefs, morals and things like this. I have had a really hard time figuring out how to talk about these things or how to go about asking questions. Do any of you have suggestions? I would appreciate it!

I kinda understand how you feel. I suggest you play a question game. like ask the question whats your favorite bible verse? and other things like that. Second sometimes just come straight out flat and ask its good to get out of your comfort zone sometimes. It shows the other person that you care about the relationship and your willing to ask anything

You can perfectly have a relationship without ever having to bring them up to be honest. Many people are sensitive over discussions regarding morals and beliefs as they may feel like they are being judged, personally you need to approach this topic in a sensitive manner.

I think it is healthy for a person or a child to question the beliefs and morals of another because it gives them a sense of identity and defines who they are. If you find out that he holds different beliefs, you shouldn't let it get in the way of how you feel.

Her partner will probably think she is a Sunday school teacher or a member of a religious cult, this could scare him away quickly.

"Her partner will probably think she is a Sunday school teacher or a member of a religious cult, this could scare him away quickly."

Yeah i see that sorry i was typing to fast, was not thinking.

There's always ways around it. Ask him like what do you do on the weekends? If he's a hardcore theist, he'll probably answer like I go to church/synagogue/temple, etc etc. Give him a certain situation and be like hey what would you do if you were in that position. If he answers a certain way that you'd expect in an ideal man with ideal morals congrats!

I dated an Aspie before & the direct approach of straight out asking each other those types of questions worked well for us. Neither one of us was offended or uncomfortable at being asked or anything. I was happy I was talking to her & that she was taking an interest to find out & I think she felt the same way. Another suggestion OP is that you could bring up the topic by talking about how you feel about something or your beliefs or whatever & maybe your bf would talk about his; me & my ex did that a lot too