Do NT rules apply to AS/ASD?

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Just out of curiosity; Say for example with an NT man it is not a good idea for a woman to show too much affection for them for fear of 'scaring them off' - does that apply for AS/ASD men too?

Depends on the person in question. Some Aspies don't like affection while others, like me, don't mind it every once in a while, with periods of wanting lots of affection. I know I keep saying this a lot, but if you want to know, you just have to ask

To clarify I'm not talking about affection in terms of hugs and kisses.
I'm talking in terms of saying 'I like you' or 'I find you attractive' too much in the beginning.

I'd still say the same thought process applies. Yes, they're different actions, but they fall under the same umbrella of "affections".

But asking breaks the rules - if it was an NT man the rule would be not to ask this, not to show your cards so-to-speak.

See, at first you were being specific, which prompted the answer I gave. Now you're being general with it - two different things. To be honest, some do apply, some don't. Personally, I prefer all cards on the table, but that doesn't mean the next Aspie you talk to will share this view.

To be honest, I think you're starting off flawed in saying that "X rule applies to NT's". NT's are not all the same, one NT is as different from another as people on the spectrum are. I personally would have no problem with a girl being as open with affection etc as she liked *shrug*

There's no correct answer for this. Most people get it wrong, regardless of who they are.

And that's the truth of it really. People aren't a problem you can analyse and solve. They're a multipe choice question, with a billion answers, and the correct one is different for every person. You just have to take a stab at it with everyone you meet and hope

i say follow NT rules. it's a good reference point to start with

@bucephalus - your avatar gives me nightmares! Yikes!! !

They're just potato eyes, nothing untoward

I'm reminded of a more attractive Wayne Rooney

When in Rome, do as the Roman's do.

Seriously though, it's different for everyone.

Personally, I like it when the woman shows affection. If I like her back, it doesn't scare me at all (unless it changes from affection to neediness)

It makes it much, much easier since you know she's into you.

One of the rules of AS/NT relationships is that hinting and subtle clues by the NT doesn't work--sort of like sign language and the blind--I've never head of blind person who has mastered sign language. Thus, highly obvious signs and actions may be preferable in some AS/NT relationships.

And keep in mind that you will likely have to settle for someone who can guess a 'close enough' answer to most of what is correct for you, regardless of being an aspie or an NT