Men who wants to be the girl in the relationship

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^^Yup, I think it's just about finding a dynamic that works for two people, (ie. that's functional and allows them to feel comfortable in their own skins), more than anything else. Or, at least it should be.

Hey, I'm the OP.
Wow, I didn't know that this thread had been revived recently! I haven't connected here for a while.

Ok, with a lot of thinking these days, I actually decided to transition into a woman.

The thing is that I never identified with being a man, to me being a man was simply to be born with a penis. I felt that I had to accept how things where. I felt like I'd never pass as a woman and that I could simply have a nice life as a man. But I got to a point where I was afraid of dating so much because I was afraid of being seen as a man. I also always felt huge jealousy about girls and what I felt was privilege that they had. I came to realize that this was just me not being in the right role, I was assigned as a man and didn't fit at all in that role. I never actually identified as a man, I just realized that to me being a man was simply having a penis. But being a man or a woman is a psychological thing, it's all about how you feels. I'm not 100% female, nobody is, but I feel much better in that role, it's much closer to who I am than being male. I want to transition because i want to express myself based on how I feels. I'm tired of being seen as a man and feeling forced to express myself in such way.

I have no issues with my genitals though, so I'll never remove them. But I started taking hormones.
I don't know where that will lead me but I can honestly say that I feel much better and so much more confident in myself. ^-^

Btw, I'm a bit screwed up on dating website for the moment though since I can't really say I'm female yet because I still look like a guy but an androgynous one.

As it seems others have already said, I don't think that any particular things should fall specifically into one gender or the other, and that the stereotypes out there don't define us. I don't think it's right to say that only one can be weak or the other has to be stronger or whatever other BS there's been.

More power to you, though, Leviathans. I'm all for whatever makes you comfortable in your own skin. It's a shame that there are those willing to discriminate against anything outside of what is considered normal, like not falling into the trap of gender roles, or having autism or aspergers or really any other differences at all. Still, it's not worth it to let those people control you. So hope things will go well for you.

I like to be the girl some times when Im dating a girl who is bisexual its fun to reverse things some times im omisexual I thought it was because I used to think that im bisexual but im not attracted to people based on their gender I like the person not whats between their legs.

I have some similarities to the OP, though I'm not really bi. Maybe lesbian trans, but we're not going to go there. hahahaha. This may be why I always enter relationships enthusiastically and then get disgusted and quit a few months later. Often dated tomboys, but none have been quite tomboy enough. Also, dated a buff M-F trans girl for a short time. The idea seems really hot, but in practice, it's kind of like meh. It just doesn't work as well as the imagination says it will.

But then I dated someone who was girly, frail, emotional, and insecure. And that went really well, only my moving/geographical separation ended it; we went strong for 5 months, a record for me. I was able to project my femininity onto her, which allowed me to enjoy being the man. OP, have you tried dating super feminine women and seen if it works for you in a similar way?

It's hard to project femininity onto a girl if she is actually less feminine than you are. So, if you find one who is more, this becomes a lot easier. You can enjoy "girl time" with her but then also be a man, leaving both of you fulfilled.