Deal-breakers for men?

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- Deceiving
- "wandering eyes"
- Lying...

Not many things are a big deal breaker for me. I can get along with 99% of people until I get lied to...It's not even the fact of lying in general it's more of continuing it even if they have been caught red handed...

"wandering eyes" is about the only other thing that bothers me. If I'm out to drinks with someone (I am always the one paying) don't ditch out half way through the night to go chat it up with every other guy in the bar. Responding to random flirts is fine but searching and instigating it is not. If they're not interested I would rather have them say something so I can leave and let them have there time with the rest of the bar...

but what if their flirting means you get free drinks

It never leads to free drinks for me (if I wanted free drinks I wouldn't be paying for her btw). It leads to the girl I'm with leaving with some other guy, my wallet being a lot lighter and an overwhelming feeling that I wasn't good enough

America is not a true Republic either. It is a hybrid system with both democratic and republican elements (no, that was not a joke).

I would not date you.

Gotta agree with you on the team sports thing. That in and of itself is not a huge deal, but it's often a proxy for other things that are quite nauseating and annoying.

This actually makes sense. But you should have used the term "redneck" rather than "tomboy" to avoid confusion. Red neck girls suck. I lived in Little Rock for a summer and tried to go on some dates there. It does get a little extreme. No, I don't like four wheelers or hunting. Seriously?! It seems like 70% of the young women outside of the city proper of Little Rock are into these things out there, and it's just crazy. One actually took me on her four-wheeler, and I felt like the gender roles were reversed even more than I would be comfortable with.

You can find a feminine woman who likes guns, or at least isn't anti-gun, which is probably what you're getting at, right? You can probably find an intellectual woman who is moderately fit who isn't into the whole sports and redneck culture. You also seem to favor a libertarian (anti-religion but also anti-gun control). I'm sure it's possible, but good luck finding someone who's either anti-gun or anti-religion in Arkansas.

As for me, I like tomboys (just not rednecks) and hate private ownership of guns, even though I am a hypocrite who is in the process of getting a concealed carry license (hehe).

I can understand the not wanting a sports fan thing.

Here in Ohio, people get REALLY into their sports. It's boring. That's all most Ohioans can really talk about, day in and day out. I have no doubt that Liam lives in an area like that too.

Ok, then I misunderstood. I thought by myself "Whats so terrible about playing volleyball or basketball or softball or paintball or whatever ball once a week for 90 minutes with some housemums." XD So I do it from now and then once a month, but not regularly, when friends of mine play, because its a nice social activity for me, you are spending time with friends, but you are not chatting all the time but focus on playing.

So I thought more about sport as a minor hobby, you simply do to have some social contact and combine it with sport. My country is very small, so beside skiing there isnt much sport you can be a lunatic fan about. Not if you dont wanna cry 98% of the year. I didnt think of that it was meant in a more lunatic fan way, with adoring and cheering some kind of sports team and fanparties and all that stuff.

I bet he didn't mean women who like to play sports. I think he was referring to the nauseatingly obsessive sports fan culture in the U.S.

I follow pro football and UFC. That's it. I don't give a s**t about college sports and would not date anyone who does. I hate that whole culture with a passion. Liam and I come from a similar area of the country, and I got out as soon as possible (before coming back in, for odd reasons, anyway...).

Tyri0n pretty much totally explained it.

I do not, however, understand why Liam is against women who speak more than one language....

I suppose it's equally bizarre to demand that your mate DO speak more than one... but Europe is a very different place where you can have 4-5 countries with different common languages, all in an area the size of my one province alone!

I think that means he is against women who only speak one language, which means he wants one who speaks more than one language. That's how I understood it.

You dont need different countries therefor. Switzerland alone inhabits french areas, italian areas, german areas where the slang swytzergerman is spoken and additional the normal german, and some kind of old origin mountain language, the rätoroman. Most countries have some areas where two different languages are officially spoken. So my country had been for centuries part of a great empire and people simply mixed up. When the two world wars ended, the countries had been divided, but in many areas there were two different folks living, so both kept their languages. In the south of my country you have slovenian speaking people and the country slovenia has some german speaking at its north border. With hungary its the same, so at the east there are some areas where people can speak hungarian, while in the west of hungary you often find people speaking german. Somewhere you simply had to draw a border. Because of this it is very rare to find people that only speak one language. If you go to basic school or special school that focuses on something else you normally speak at least 2 languages, if you visit normal high school (Age 14-18) you have about 3-4 languages (German, English, Latin and/or an additional european language), people that visit schools that focuses on tourism jobs or economy often have an additional outer european language.

Speaking only 1 language wouldnt be a dealbreaker for me, but I definitely do not like that guys that always yell around at youtube and on the internet: "Speak english. Everyone has to speak english. So english is the world language you stupid .... so if you dont speak english you are simply ... English is the language spoken most on earth, so you all have to communicate this way..." (Nope its mandarin...but god beware that I need to learn mandarin. Not that it isnt an interesting language, but it seems pretty difficult.) Specially when its in a youtube thread about a videoclip of a spanish metalband that was posted by a spanish origin person with a description in spanish. I mean, I think at least you should allow spanish people to discuss spanish bands in spanish. ^^

Oh. rofl. I misread it.

I have learned to realize a huge turn off for me. Someone who is incapable of making a decision for themselves and wants you to be responsible for their behaviour. Yes... a huge turn off indeed.

About 3/4 of that list describes my ex. The thing is, it started out great for awhile, then it turned into that. I think she had HPD...stay away from the cluster b personalities, they are bad news.

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I agree. I don't want to be someone's baby sitter, or hold their hand on everything they do. I have been in relationships where I had to pick all of the restaurants and make all of the decisions when we went somewhere, then if they didn't like it, it would always be my fault.