Question for aspie males

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If it were me, the next time I walk by your window, I'd want you to introduce yourself and say something like "One of the last times I saw you, you had such a lovely smile." and then ask me out.

Most Aspies do not read between the lines. They like honesty. If you have a crush on him, then tell him you have a crush on him. That is how it works for an Aspie. Here is a list of some of the positive aspects of an Aspie:

* They are usually loyal and dependable. Competing to get ahead is less important than solving problems and meeting challenges. Conscientiousness, faithfulness and devotion to duty matter more than ambition, especially if that ambition would cause others to suffer.
* Adults with Aspergers pursue ideas they believe in without being deterred by what others say. They are not easily swayed by others’ opinions, nor to they give up because someone tries to convince them otherwise.
* They are good at recognizing patterns and in classifying things. They are comfortable with order, precision and categorization, which make them successful in following rules, allocating resources and solving problems.
* They tend to be sincere, positive and genuine, which make them loyal and dependable friends. * Speaking their minds regardless of the social context is true of many adults with Aspergers. They are much more interested in someone’s skills and expertise than whether that person is viewed favorably by others.
* Adults with Aspergers are especially good at noting and recalling details. They are helpful at work that requires knowledge of facts, details, and memory. They are often exceptional at the recall of details forgotten or disregarded by others. They have a passion for gathering and cataloging information on a topic of interest.
* An acute sensitivity to specific sensory experiences and stimuli, including touch, vision, and smell is common and having such unusual sensory experiences gives them a different perspective on the world.
* Adults with Aspergers tend to be trusting of others, even charmingly naïve. They are compassionate and caring, and many maintain the belief in the possibility of positive relationships.
* They are often direct, speak their mind and are honest. Many have a strong sense of social justice.
* Because they don’t mind being alone, they are often willing to engage in solitary work that others avoid, which puts them in the position of making tremendous contributions at work and school.
* They are able to comprehend multiple levels of meanings of words and ideas and can form connections that others miss.
* They are persistent, and when they set their minds to something or make a promise they can usually be trusted to follow through.
* A relationship with someone who has Aspergers tends to be free from bias and discrimination based on race, gender, age or other differences. They judge people based on their behavior not the color of their skin, socioeconomic status or political influence.
* They are not inclined to be bullies, con artists or social manipulators.
* “Most of the major advances in science and the arts have been made by people with Asperger’s”

[quote="jimmy m"]Most Aspies do not read between the lines. They like honesty. If you have a crush on him, then tell him you have a crush on him. That is how it works for an Aspie. Here is a list of some of the positive aspects of an Aspie:quote]

Thank you for taking the time to write all of that. It is these types of thoughtful and informative insights, that restore my faith in humanity.

I’ve read a lot of different perspectives and the most common piece of advice is, of course, “just come out and say it!” I believe that I will. I think I will likely, send a FB message, because that is what is most comfortable for me. I tend to get too, deeply lost in my own head, particularly in situations outside of what I know.

I’ve been able to rely on my body language to attract suitors my entire life. Being so forthcoming is not, familiar territory.

As for the list of positive aspects, I was very impressed with what was written, as I tend to have many of the same philosophies on life!

Let's recap this. A fine woman stumbles upon a stranger, finds his smile beautiful and wants to date him *after* knowing that he is on the autistic spectrum? That's trolling, right? These things don't happen in real life! Is that a movie script you're writing?

Well, I envy that man really.