Would you date an NT?

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Hi Mellow, there is no-one im close to emotionally but like i said i have desires so i want to have pleasure even though im not in a relationship. It's probably the same reason why i masterbate. I dont intentionally go out to hurt people, besides i dont think anyone loves me that way anymore so how could i hurt them?

Eamonn,
I didn't mean to point a finger in your direction. I was just agreeing with a lot of what you said. I'm not saying you're hurting anyone. I just wanted to make that clear.


Mellow

I agree, and it's something I've been working on in recent years. I think I'm finally starting to "get it". Really, I think all it takes is being yourself and being honest.



Well, on second thought, maybe not. I'm still moody, and I still feel like a kid in many ways. But I definately have more of a wild side now.



I think that's an exaggeration. Some women like when guys have a child-like innocence. As long as it's not to that much of an extreme.

And would I date an NT? Absolutely. I happen to know some NT's that are very open-minded, understanding, and down-to-earth, and I'd date one of those in a heartbeat. And there are also some common Aspie traits that, I must admit, are a turn-off for me (namely the aversion towards physical affection).

That's ok. I think i know what you mean.

Last edited by eamonn on 29 Aug 2005, 12:38 pm, edited 1 time in total.

that was my point. saying it's okay to do that to NTs is as bad as all the stuff on here about NTs treating aspies badly, in my book.

i do know the difference between a relationship and a "shag", thanks.

Everybody in here seems to be letting a few bad experiences really get to them. I've said this before, and I'll say it again: NT's are much more varied than that, they are even more varied than Aspies. Just because you don't like red jelly beans doesn't mean that you can't like the green ones.

yeah, but Paul - who wants a relationship (or a "shag") with a jelly bean?

If you have to ask that question, you don't want to know. (I have a sick mind, and can think of many uses for jelly beans -- none of which I would personally do, or describe)

rofl!

i was there before you, you know...

stickyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!

Dang!

My imagination isn't nearly that good...I'm drawing a complete blank.

I'll never look at jelly beans the same way though

LOL!

i'd offer to send you a PM to illuminate you, BeeBee, but i don't to be banned...

I think it might have a lot to with the area I live in as well as the fact that I'm in the restaurant industry with social butterfly types who are largely going to a prep college down the street, are out at the bar getting ishfaced 3 or 4 nights out of the week, talking about fights they or their girlfriends/boyfriends got into. Tough for me to remember that's not the whole world but then again I see where most NT women who are on the same page personality-wise that I am probably would mind that kind of innocense even though she, like most women, would be too nice to come out and say anything like that.

Come on people: you don't go looking for monkeys at the bottom of the ocean. Unless, of course, you are looking for victims of the monkey mafia. If you are not looking for a hyper-social NT then don't go looking at a club or a bar. Go to a library, go to a play, go to a Native American sweat lodge (most are single sex, but some are not, and anyway it's naked people!). Go to church/temple/whatever. Visit your local BDSM dungeon. There are lots of places to go. Chances are you are not going to find that person there, but you are more likely to find them there than at a club or a bar.

But we aren't all like that and aren't all compatable with people like that. See where it gets a little more complicated sometimes?

I don't really care if the person I would go out with is autistic or not. If I happen to like her and she likes me back, who cares about labels?

I would only go out with other Aspies cos I don't trust NTs anymore as so many of them have let me down over the years that I wouldn't have the confidence to have a serious relationship with an NT lad.