Is it right to blame people for having kids later?

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chris1989
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12 Jan 2026, 3:19 pm

I seem to feel as though it's unfair to have a go at someone for having a child later than someone having them earlier in life. I mean everyone's life circumstances are different and maybe they struggled with relationships or finding someone or even had miscarriages, like someone telling me she had had in her early 20s I think she told me. It does make me boil a bit when it seems like some people are dictating how other people they don't know should live their lives. I do understand that if someone is much older and having a child it may not be ideal because that person might not be around forever to seem them grow up.



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12 Jan 2026, 3:34 pm

I might have judged someone for having a child later on in life in years past, but now I wouldn't.

These days it's hard enough to support yourself financially not to mention a wife and kids. It's just a simple fact that most men under the age of 35 or even 40 are not financially stable enough to get married and have kids.

And even if you are stable financially finding a girlfriend can be difficult for the best of us. It's not like it's just aspies that are struggling with dating these days, normies are struggling too. Most men these days are single, especially young men. I heard a statistic somewhere sating that 60% of men under the age of 30 are single. That doesn't bode well for birthrates.



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12 Jan 2026, 3:54 pm

It's probably not right to criticize people's choices regarding having kids, no matter what choice they make.

Possible exception being if they have kids and can't or don't support them.


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12 Jan 2026, 11:01 pm

Marriage and parenting are both overrated in my opinion but it is 100% your choice to have a child!! !! !!

I am not even sure if I want children

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13 Jan 2026, 5:12 am

In most cases no unless they left kids until the 11th hour purely for the sake of it.

Its one thing I don't like, mainly because of increased risk and complications, particularly for the child.



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13 Jan 2026, 2:46 pm

It seems parents can get blammed, criticized, & nitpicked for most anything that involves their kids. Parents only have so much control & different things can be better or worse for different kids & families.


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