Tragic statement by teacher

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When I was 11 I was described by my teacher as a "Handsome lad".

What I find quite tragic about her statement is fast forward 25 years I am 36 never had a proper gf and still a virgin.

Do you agree that my teacher probably thought that I had a lot of potential in the world of romance?

Not necessarily but evidently she liked you as a "cute kid" in a friendly, non sexualized way. It often happens that a teacher has a soft spot for someone in her class.

I don't think she had any future romances for you in mind, but it was a compliment to be enjoyed!

I was well over 30 before I saw or experienced any intimate action.

Think the major amount of teachers that paid compliments, believed it would encourage their students in their lives .
And might be feeling comfortable enough with a student to offer a compliment .

Yes..your teacher thought you had romantic potential... You still do, but without a mirror in which to see it you'll have to rely on assumption to generate confidence.
Being pretty only catches the attention. Words and deeds are required to draw them in.
If you want someone you have to let them know without scaring them off.
NTs do this with body language which probably isn't automatic for you and you may have to consciously project.
Try this.

When you think of the object of your affections can you mentally isolate the warmth and fuzziness..the wanting..
Fold that into a ball and look in the mirror.
Concentrate on that feeling and let your face form a smile.

Hold the smile, forget the feeling, then try changing the smile into one you like.the look of and remember the corrections

The next time you see them remember that fuzzy and let them LIGHT YOU UP.
Don't say..don't think... RADIATE.
They're making you feel good...REVEL in it.

Now change your smile.

See if they don't start grinning too.

Ok, you can let your brain reboot and completely stuff it up now. It no longer matters.
Once you've extracted that smile they will forgive a lot of social transgressions.

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Don't look at me, it was his idea >>>>>

Love the disclaimer ...btw

My retentivity is shocking these days.
I'd forgotten I wrote it and just PMSL.

I'm going to put that on my dating profile

That was a nice compliment that your teacher gave you.

I'm 51 and I'm still a virgin but I don't dwell on it.

Maybe you’re the next Macron.