Is it a good idea to go back with your ex?

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I keep having this on and off relationship lately and basically my gilrfriend dumped me for another boy which I'm simply had left me so heartbrokn really bad and me and her really deeply loved each other that we could literally never get each other out of our heads.

Her and the next boy happens to ask each other out, getting to know each other and then he asked a question, who was your old boyfriend and she said me, and then the boy started getting angry and for some reason hates me and I hate him too because he already knew

They both started fighting when the girl was jealous of the boy when he was looking at the sugababes and since then, it had gotten worse and worse and she never did that with me and as I heard, she kept talking about me on and on and how she misses me.

Just a couple of days ago, I went back with her and things seemed abit weird.

I was talking to another member here on AIM and she thought it was a bad idea and it's not good to look back once you finish, and my mate from college even said the samething and get more problems...

Now it suddenly made me think, was it really worth it after all this?

Do you all else think it's a good idea or a bad idea?

More often than not, it's give and take, but mostly a bad idea. But the only way to know for sure is to let it play out; at least that way if it doesn't work you'll get some perspective and possibly some closure.

No...

I think there are many ladies out there you can find that make better partners to stay together with.

In addition, I don't want anyone to feel hurt --- just keep waiting, ok? You're so cool, girls will look for you automatically.

I keep getting told BS like this all the time. How does this work? Women don't even take notice of me... I seriously doubt there's a woman that is or would ever be *looking* for me...

^^ I didn't consider myself being so cool.... Does that mean I'm too cool for college

Most of the ladies don't seem to like me that way or they are already taken... or I would of ended up with a girl who just uses me and that happens so many times

But then I went back with her... But I might consider that incase she dumps me again (hopefully not) the love she has for me seems strong and so is mine

Who knows, just be yourself...

And keep the options open though.

Do not just restrict our options to just a few...

Sometimes you have to be the one searching but it is just easier to make many friends that are girls and develop it slowly and then hopefully there would be a girl out there that would eventually fancy you.... Then you try and ask her out or she asks you out.

Hope this is any helpful enough?


superboyian.

It all depends on the reasons you broke up. If the reasons for breaking up are still there, you are doomed to break up again unless there's a mentallity change. Otherwise, I see no reason not to try it again....

She may genuinely have realised what she was missing, but I wouldn't trust her completely anymore; she's got a lot to prove.

She may be using you as a 'back up' for failed relationships and this may be the start of a trend, where she dumps you, then comes running back each time the new guy doesn't work out... it's hard to tell as this is the first time it's happened, so you should probably make it very clear that if she dumps you again, that's it, no more. Some times it's better to take the heartbreak and get over it, rather than let her keep playing you as a fool.

i don't know

For me, the reasons why you broke up are always there, hence I vote that it's a bad idea.

If both partners are willing to work on it, there is a possibility. Most of the time both partners are not willing to work on it, though....

Oh yes I definitely agree with that actually thats the thing... but there is some that want to come back together and some of the couples do actually make an effort at least compared to the ones that end up in TV shows like "The Jeremy Kyle Show" which is absolutely pathetic.

Hopefully I don't end up on there....

I think it depends on the manner of breakup. If you were friends with someone before and find that you can still be friends after, there's a chance. If the breakup was on good terms, there's a chance. Especially if there was a breakup because of a simple misunderstanding (common if you rush into it too quickly), as opposed to truly being not compatible...

The biggest problem is that western society (and a great deal of other societies out there) have this thing ingrained in their collective heads that a friend and a lover are two completely different, mutually exclusive things. Not only does that mindset remove the people you know best (and therefore actually have an idea as to whether or not you're compatible before the fact) from your "dating pool", but it also makes relationships a lot more volatile even if you are compatible. Friendship is a good foundation for any relationship, as it allows a couple something to fall back upon when the actual attraction is not readily present (and attraction can come in and out with the tides as far as i can determine), and helps to strengthen the overall bond.

well I think it can be a good idea. Ive got back together with my ex boyfriend Tom and its going very well. Weve made some new ground rules about the things we had problems with and its working well and we are both very happy.

you just have to look deeply within and think about what you really want.

No no no no no no no! Never! If you broke up once, you'll break up again, no matter how unlikely that may seem at the time!