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16 Jan 2026, 10:39 pm

Let's just say something unexpected happened that took him out of my life and I no longer wish to pursue the goal of marriage and motherhood!! !

He cheated on me with someone at his rehab center!! !! !!



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16 Jan 2026, 10:59 pm

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
Let's just say something unexpected happened that took him out of my life and I no longer wish to pursue the goal of marriage and motherhood!! !

He cheated on me with someone at his rehab center!! ! ! ! !


Sorry to hear this.


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16 Jan 2026, 11:04 pm

^ I will be okay, just need to move on...



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17 Jan 2026, 1:20 am

My commiserations but...

Yay
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17 Jan 2026, 1:35 am

Carbonhalo wrote:
My commiserations but...

Yay
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Uh...what?!?



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17 Jan 2026, 5:46 am

My brother now wants me to completely abandon the marriage goal!! !! !!

What should I do...?



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17 Jan 2026, 5:54 am

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
My brother now wants me to completely abandon the marriage goal!! ! ! ! !

What should I do...?


It should be your...and only your...decision.

I don't believe in marriage, too confining.


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17 Jan 2026, 6:06 am

Tim_Tex wrote:
Mikurotoro92 wrote:
My brother now wants me to completely abandon the marriage goal!! ! ! ! !

What should I do...?


It should be your...and only your...decision.

I don't believe in marriage, too confining.


I hate feeling imprisoned and I feel that is what marriage will ultimately devolve into once the so-called "honeymoon period" stops

But on the other hand, I want the experience!! !

Hmm...what to do...?



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17 Jan 2026, 8:50 am

I am sorry to hear about your situation with your now ex cheating on you. I know it hurts now but remember you will become stronger with this life experience out of the way. You are the one who should decide on what to do with your future plans. Do not let relatives force you to go against what you want for yourself. Too many people fall into that trap of expectations and give up on what they really want out of life.



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17 Jan 2026, 11:26 am

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
I hate feeling imprisoned and I feel that is what marriage will ultimately devolve into once the so-called "honeymoon period" stops

But on the other hand, I want the experience!! !

Hmm...what to do...?
My two cents is that you could be in a serious long-term relationship with someone & continue to both live separately or eventually move in together without getting married. If you are interested in pursuing something like that I would advise ruling out guys who are very religious, who already have kids, or who are desperate to have kids.

I'm very sorry you were cheated on. I know that can majorly hurt.


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17 Jan 2026, 12:11 pm

Sorry about your break up mikurotoro92

Wish I could offer some help but I'm unqualified


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18 Jan 2026, 10:10 pm

Oh, gosh. I'm sorry for that to happen to you, Mikuro. :(


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18 Jan 2026, 10:19 pm

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
My brother now wants me to completely abandon the marriage goal!! ! ! ! !

What should I do...?

Your choice is STILL your own. You're like what, 30 years old, at least? You're practically old enough to make your own decisions.


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19 Jan 2026, 3:53 pm

I'm sorry to hear that.

No one deserves to be cheated on, unless perhaps they're into that.


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19 Jan 2026, 4:09 pm

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
My brother now wants me to completely abandon the marriage goal!! ! ! ! !

What should I do...?
I was unsuccessful in finding a mate and gave up when I reached 40.

I kept mingling socially and tried to be nice to people but I did not see them as prospects for romance, just nice people to talk to at parties.

I married when I was 45. :duh:

I don't know what will work for you but what worked for me was not looking for romance, just looking for pleasant socializing.

Good luck!


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19 Jan 2026, 7:36 pm

I was VERY close to finding my partner and getting married...then this happens!! !