Continue or abandon marriage and parenting goal?

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Now that David is out of my life, what should I do about my goal?

Should I start over and date another man so I can reach marriage?

Or abandon the goal completely to focus on creative projects instead?

Please help me

Thanks in advance!! !

If you are in America marriage is a scam especially for men. I wouldn't bother.

Only if it's what *you* want.

I still want a non-marriage relationship, though I've given up on parenting.

Abandon it for as long as you think of it as part of a required checklist.

If you still have a desire for male companionship (which I wouldn't know) then could you act on that desire without committing to marriage and motherhood?

You're too obsessed with marriage. Most couples don't get married these days. Plus it is expensive, even if you go for a very low-budget wedding, you're still looking at £300-£500. It's what I did anyway. So if you find someone else then just date them, you don't need to keep obsessing over marriage unless he proposes to you.

^Only because I want the experience of being married, just to know what it's like

It's no different than in SpongeBob SquarePants episode "The Algae's Always Greener" where Plankton decides to switch lives with Mr. Krabs so he can experience working at the Krusty Krab

However, without David my marriage desire kinda stopped!! !

I'm not so sure if I still want it...

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Ah okay.

It seems that you have a few "special interests":
- Spongebob
- composing chiptunes
- marriage
- children
Any others?

I think you are in love with the idea of getting married and having kids, as opposed to actually wanting it. I think you should step back from your goal of marriage and children and reflect on if you actually want it, and more importantly if you are capable of pursuing those goals.

What?!?

Actually...you might be right @Canadian Freedom Lover!! !

My relationships haven't been working out and I am not sure if I want to continue doing dating and all of this just to FINALLY reach the goal of marriage!

I came very close to achieving the goal with David but struck out near the end

This is what I get for dating a man who was incredibly sick and was basically a ticking time bomb...

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I think it should be your goal when/if you love someone and only then. Don't get married or have kids to tick a box.
By all means meet people and get to know them though and get out there

If i was you, i would take a step away from marriage and parenting and focus entirely on yourself and setting achievable goals that'll set you on the path to independance.

Becoming a parent in particular requires independence that I think you haven't quite reached yet. Sorting out your own financial and housing needs without support, and even the possibility of learning to drive will be hugely beneficial to you

The fact that you have to ask us is a strong indication that you are not ready for it.

I think if there is any doubt you should not do it.

Marriage is overrated. Simply obsessing over it will get you nowhere. The more you keep wanting it, the less likely it'll happen. Focus on other things you want to do, finding true love will come later.