How do you behave/react when you have a 'crush'?

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excessive blinking + epic boner

Back in my teens/early 20's I used to get really attached to one particular person. Looking back on it now, I shake my head because I wasted so much time and made so many mistakes because I always felt like I needed someone. My obsession would only intensify if I was ever given the impression that a girl might be interested in me. I went through a lot of heartache due to various circumstances, until I was able to feel confident enough in myself to get to a place (mentally) where I didn't feel like I absolutely needed a girlfriend.

If the right person comes along, great. As it stands right now, and this might sound kind of crass to some people, but right now I just look for good looking women who I want to have sex with. I'm mostly just looking for arrangements where we both enjoy each others company, and enjoy each other physically. No manipulation involved. It feels good to not have this crippling feeling of needing someone, but I think part of that also comes from the fact that I'm currently not in a position, economically, to have a full-on committed relationship.

like most of you guys i do get a bit obsessive and they do become my special interest. I try to find out everything I can about them. When it comes to flirting with them I pretty much suck. But I do get them to smile though and have gotten them to hang out with me a couple of time so that's a plus.

Think I had a pretty decent run last year, hoping this year won't be too disappointing:

I try to ignore it at first, stop thinking about them, and generally dance around the fact - I know I have developed feelings for them, but I don't think about it and try to let the thoughts pass.

Eventually my will fails, and I decide to admit that yes, I indeed have a crush on them.

I then begin to think of ways and methods I could come into contact with them more often, and how I could start talking to them and getting to know them.

I carry out these very actions, be myself, be confident and play it cool.

The first girl sat behind me in class, so I started chatting to her and complimenting her on the fact she was a published writer. I decided to ask for feedback/help with my writing.

Using this as an icebreaker, I'd chat to her plenty and get to know her, as we shared one class and form/homeroom together.

I asked her if she wanted to get coffee, though she didn't realize until the second date that they were supposed to be 'dates', even though I strongly flirted with her before then (she was a possible aspie as well).

The second major crush, tried talking to her and getting to know her in class, but she was a very tough person to get to know. Gave up pre-maturely to when I usually do.

Third girl, she liked me back, so she started sitting next to me straight away. Decided to use it to full advantage and talk to her and flirt as much as possible. Went to her hangout spot at the lunch breaks all the time to play handball occasionally, but I was often shy to approach, but I at least wanted to be there. We did have a few fun moments together, but generally didn't have the time to hangout. She had to drop out and move across the country because she got kicked out of home, ending our bubbling romance pre-maturely.

Fourth, a friend of a friend, and a girl who hung aout with the same group as me, started talking to her anfd getting to know her better, "played it cool", spent as much time alone with her as possible, she developed feelings back, first girlfriend, yaddayadda.

Another girl, introduced myself, got to know her/hanging out with her, 'playing it cool', yaddayadda.

And fifth, introduced self, brief talking, asked her out, instant connection on first date, second girlfriend for a time.

25% of time, feelings are obsessively unhealthy.

When I get a crush on somebody, I tend to behave very, very foolishly.

I can't get over my crush, I still want him, I'm hopeless. I hate this!! What wrong with me!?

Kind of know how that feels. For the longest time I had a crush on a woman who I later found out was a lesbian. Only thing that helped was forcefully distancing myself from that person. Eventually you'll meet someone else and the current "no hope crush" will become an afterthought.