Why don't single men hereput their pictures up as an avatar?

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This whole thread got me thinking of why I was shy about showing myself, and apart from security and privacy concerns (which I am starting to see mor lenient, since I am rather anonymous here, no one who knows me in person is here, nor ever gonna come here in that matter, and while I did give alot of personal information about me, I am still rather certain that if someone really wanted to find out who I am, where I live ect, he could do that no matter how little traces I left, so why even bother?), I experienced rejection in my early teens because of my... let's say "awkward" apperance, and the fact that it seems like that my looks do not seem to be my strong side, or else someone would have at least told me, or maybe a girl or womand would have tried to make a move, so I guess I fear that if I made myself too vulnerable by showing everyone else how I looked, I would experience the same kind of rejection and disappointment I was used to when I was younger. However, seeing that many a guy got his motivation to post his picture from this thread, it at least got me to post one picture of myself in the adult section (and at least I did not get any negative feedback, but I chose the place where I posted it quite cautiously), even though I am still rather hesitant to use one as my avatar. Just showing yourself off once is one thing, but reminding everyone what kind of douche he is talking to... well, writing with, really, is something I really have to consider.
I figured that many guys on these forums have similar feelings about their outward appearance, and have made similar experience with rejection or simply being ignored by girls and women, and at least for me, at some point that translated to "I am ugly". While I don't think I qualify as ugly, I certainly won't win any beauty pageants, and for some reason, I feel presumptuous showing my face to people when I can be certain that if they had a choice, they'd rather not look at me.

Self-conscious probably

Isn't that typical of aspies?

Oh, but how could I resist? I mean, could you resist?

But....but.....the Boo head is beauty itself! The beauty of wisdom and ....intelligence!



And oh, this is my " " version:







They're not always the same 5.




I've tried this, check the meetup thread.

It's hot, no doubt, but you're hotter.



It doesn't matter. There aren't enough of them, I guess. Or they are all super-picky %^#^%$#%, which brings me to my original comment: what's wrong with the local girls?

I'd try my luck with that bean lover girl. She seems cute.



Maybe I'm missing the point... I thought that was about the attempt of making friends, not dating. Different rules apply, right? Right?

I'd love to see your version...

That makes you look a bit, er, creepy?

No.

I only put my pic on facebook. I wouldn't put myself as a pic here as I personally dislike using myself and being too open with my image that anyone can see it and use it that I would not know. Whereas on facebook was made as a social interaction, this is a forum with discussions.
Also, which is no offense but on facebook I only talk to people I know rather than the outside world.

Facebook makes me feel more uneasy, for some reason. Maybe I just don't like facebook.

My avatar is a photo of Venger.

OK . I caved in and actually changed mine. I've been on here a year and a member for 9mos
I asked myself whats the negative vs positive, I guess the main reason is so someone can put a face with the name. I'm really tired of being shy and reserved.

great pic, gadge!

Thanks....not quite as artistic as yours though ! ! Which, by the way, I like ! !

awwww thanks! not as popular as the ones i had before. people are nicer when i have a picture showing and i think it's because then they know i am a real person, maybe. less like just words on a screen.