21 Sep 2016, 8:02 pm
nurseangela wrote:
Boo, I couldn't find the quote you wrote here, but what you said here makes me think of the male population in a whole new light - and not a good one.
Why "the male population"?
Quote:
This kind of talk makes me glad that I'm single and come home to Waldo.
Do you have any trouble finding him when you get home?
nurseangela wrote:
Oh brother. I sure wouldn't be texting you (See previous post), or any of those other things either because I think you should be doing some of it so I guess we'd both end up staying in our own little corners alone. Too bad. 
He didn't say that he wouldn't be doing any effort, he said that the effort should be shared. Sometimes he starts texting you, some other times you do.
21 Sep 2016, 10:22 pm
nurseangela wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Honestly, I am no longer willing to comprise my pride for anyone whoever she is.
If let's say a girl I like reads my fb message (with a regular question ie how are youbeen) and never replies ==> I go to her page, unfriend, bye bye, I move on.
If let's say a girl I like never says hi to me unless I say hi first ==> forget, bye bye. Moving on.
If a girl I like only says hi when she runs into me face-to-face at some door or narrow passage but NEVER crosses a part of the room we both happen to be to say hi to me ==> forget, bye bye.
A girl who NEVER initiates texting/messages even if she replies every time, and even if I went few dates with her, or even if I got sick for few days ==> forget, bye bye.
In short, if one never initiates or at least partially chases me ==> bye bye.
If let's say a girl I like reads my fb message (with a regular question ie how are youbeen) and never replies ==> I go to her page, unfriend, bye bye, I move on.
If let's say a girl I like never says hi to me unless I say hi first ==> forget, bye bye. Moving on.
If a girl I like only says hi when she runs into me face-to-face at some door or narrow passage but NEVER crosses a part of the room we both happen to be to say hi to me ==> forget, bye bye.
A girl who NEVER initiates texting/messages even if she replies every time, and even if I went few dates with her, or even if I got sick for few days ==> forget, bye bye.
In short, if one never initiates or at least partially chases me ==> bye bye.
Oh brother. I sure wouldn't be texting you (See previous post), or any of those other things either because I think you should be doing some of it so I guess we'd both end up staying in our own little corners alone. Too bad.
As much as I was disturbed by hearing Boo's admission to enjoying the power of being the chased, I do have to agree with him on this one. When you are the only one sticking your neck out, texting, calling, and putting forth the effort, it royally sucks! One sided relationships are a drag! If you can't reciprocate in some way, I agree! Bye Bye!
22 Sep 2016, 6:52 am
22 Sep 2016, 8:37 am
Peacesells wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
Boo, I couldn't find the quote you wrote here, but what you said here makes me think of the male population in a whole new light - and not a good one.
Why "the male population"?
Quote:
This kind of talk makes me glad that I'm single and come home to Waldo.
Do you have any trouble finding him when you get home?
nurseangela wrote:
Oh brother. I sure wouldn't be texting you (See previous post), or any of those other things either because I think you should be doing some of it so I guess we'd both end up staying in our own little corners alone. Too bad.
He didn't say that he wouldn't be doing any effort, he said that the effort should be shared. Sometimes he starts texting you, some other times you do.
I'm procrastinating while having my first cup of the morning flavor. I re-read the post and you're right, he doesn't say that he wouldn't do anything. I take it back, Boo. I'd come out of my corner to say "Howdy".
The texting post still bothers me because I used to text my Aspie friend quite a bit and I hope he wasn't thinking that kind of stuff. I'm tired of all of the dating and texting rules. I just text or email when I feel like it regardless of whether the other person has answered or not. I figure if it is too much for them, then they can say something, right? I know I'm not really desperate because I've been by myself for quite a long time, but sometimes I'm just more talkative than others. This is where I clash with Aspies pretty much.
22 Sep 2016, 9:00 am
nurseangela wrote:
I'm procrastinating while having my first cup of the morning flavor. I re-read the post and you're right, he doesn't say that he wouldn't do anything. I take it back, Boo. I'd come out of my corner to say "Howdy".
The texting post still bothers me because I used to text my Aspie friend quite a bit and I hope he wasn't thinking that kind of stuff. I'm tired of all of the dating and texting rules. I just text or email when I feel like it regardless of whether the other person has answered or not. I figure if it is too much for them, then they can say something, right? I know I'm not really desperate because I've been by myself for quite a long time, but sometimes I'm just more talkative than others. This is where I clash with Aspies pretty much.
The texting post still bothers me because I used to text my Aspie friend quite a bit and I hope he wasn't thinking that kind of stuff. I'm tired of all of the dating and texting rules. I just text or email when I feel like it regardless of whether the other person has answered or not. I figure if it is too much for them, then they can say something, right? I know I'm not really desperate because I've been by myself for quite a long time, but sometimes I'm just more talkative than others. This is where I clash with Aspies pretty much.
I think it's more about people not interested in talking with you than about them having Asperger's. Sorry if I'm blunt, that's just what I think.
22 Sep 2016, 9:04 am
Peacesells wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
I'm procrastinating while having my first cup of the morning flavor. I re-read the post and you're right, he doesn't say that he wouldn't do anything. I take it back, Boo. I'd come out of my corner to say "Howdy".
The texting post still bothers me because I used to text my Aspie friend quite a bit and I hope he wasn't thinking that kind of stuff. I'm tired of all of the dating and texting rules. I just text or email when I feel like it regardless of whether the other person has answered or not. I figure if it is too much for them, then they can say something, right? I know I'm not really desperate because I've been by myself for quite a long time, but sometimes I'm just more talkative than others. This is where I clash with Aspies pretty much.
The texting post still bothers me because I used to text my Aspie friend quite a bit and I hope he wasn't thinking that kind of stuff. I'm tired of all of the dating and texting rules. I just text or email when I feel like it regardless of whether the other person has answered or not. I figure if it is too much for them, then they can say something, right? I know I'm not really desperate because I've been by myself for quite a long time, but sometimes I'm just more talkative than others. This is where I clash with Aspies pretty much.
I think it's more about people not interested in talking with you than about them having Asperger's.
You think? How come? I don't seem to have any problems with NT's. It seems that Aspies talk a lot in the beginning then it just peters out. Every single one of them. My NT friends I can talk to for hours. It could be a guy thing too. I know some guys don't talk a whole lot, but I had an NT guy friend and we talked for hours everyday. I really think it's an Aspie/NT thing.
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27 Sep 2016, 1:42 am
I found this quote-picture today on a dating app (on some lady's profile), and it's very relevant to here:
"Don't seek for someone you wish to be with hence he (gender-neutral in this case) will make you slave, but seek instead for someone who wants you so he'll make you king"
27 Sep 2016, 2:41 am
27 Sep 2016, 2:43 am
Peacesells wrote:
Btw for all you feminists who don't believe that the chased is far more powerful just watch Road Runner cartoons if you don't believe me.
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