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Being confident with no foundation is off putting. Makes you look like you lack self awareness.


Also not caring what people think =/= confidence.

It's not the same. I don't care too much about what people think, but like boo said, I don't feel confident about tasks where I know my knowledge/skillset is not suffecient

What is confidence?

If its just believing in yourself and liking yourself as you are than it won't necessarily make you more attractive.

Take Paul for example.

He is short. Skinny, nerdy.

He doesn't make eye contact when hespeaks to people, he stars at the ground. He walks funny and he does odd things with his hands.

But he is "confident".

His body language might say otherwise. But you speak to him and he say "I don't really think making eye contact matters that much. I am confident I would still be able to attract a San anyway and believe in myself.

See most would try very hard to convince him he's not confident since he appears shy and nervous but when you're an aspie that really.might just be your natural mannerisms and behaviour no matter how confident you feel internally.

You have to have TACT, you have to specifically present an image of confidence on the outside, walking with you head high, making eye contact, smiling pleasantly at others.

I was "confident" at 15 but had no Taft. I didn't care about making wye contact because I believed it didnt matter. I made weird hand gestures but a didn't think that mattered either.

It was only when I had TACT that people were more interested in getting to know me.

People still think.I'm shy today sometimes.
I have quiet confidence
I may be very confident inside but I simply don't talk to people much, not because I'm shy or nervous but usually just disinterested in the conversation.

I try to have confident body language (head high. Hands on hips, sit openly and with good posture. Etc.)

When people actually tall to.me they find my social skills.normal, not nervous or weird mannerisms at all since I'm starting to overcome my ASD on The outside. I blend in just fine.

Hale_bopp:

There are no Australians on the Internet.

Literally. I very very rarely come across any online and those that do live halfway across the country.

Retro gamer and Raleigh is the only other Australians on wrongplanet and he is very, very far away.

Volunteering at pet shops, I have allergies.

University library. Hobby groups, not bad ideas.

Making male friends for me has always been useless. Every.male friend ive ever had ive been best with girls which isn't saying much.

I tend to end up friends with awkward, antisocial males who don't have any age appropriate sisters or cousins either.

I find myself incompatible with the very.males.who are better at being friends with and knowing girls. I've tried being friends with more social and popular males, just doesn't work out.

I think its stupid and dangerous to have flatmates you don't or barely know.

You could get beaten, raped, robbed, murdered.

I know single girls from.high school who advertise looking for a flatmate, how foolish is that? Even if it'd only other women you can't trust other women either.

Anyway in fairly.mistrusting of others in general and definitely wouldn't actually live with someone like that.

As for a job, I'm on disability. As for drivi . My anxiety is severe.

I would have crashed at 16, my mental health was worse then now.

I can barely even volunteer . THAT is how bad my mental health is.

As for study, I'm on disability Im not permitted from the government to, which is bullcrap.

I can study just fine, its wrling I can't really do yet.

And.no I don't think your dad toigh pove attitude would have helped.

My life is so easy, yet I barely.make it through the day mentally as it is.

Forced to get a job as soon as I graduated would have DESTROYED me.

While we were getting me on disability I was so scared if they said no, I was having occasional panic attacks.

So it's either I get to study but must spend hours a week job hunting and going to stressful appointments each week for hours or volunteer in my comfortable limit, slowly learn to drive . Take advantage of disability support services to help me move out, continue therapy.

I refuse to take.meds they screw with my mental and physical health.

There's going out of your comfort zone, and there's being thrown out to the wolves.

If I were to teach my brother to hunt, I would start him with small rabbits. Once he gets better, we would go out of his comfort zone and make him hunt fox

I wouldn't expect him to shoot a lion or wolf from day one