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Are you single?
Yes. 63%  63%  [ 40 ]
No. 33%  33%  [ 21 ]
Don't Know! 3%  3%  [ 2 ]
Total votes : 63

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30 Jun 2019, 5:36 pm

None. I'm undesirable.



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30 Jun 2019, 6:04 pm

I had my first boyfriend when I was in my early 30' then met an Australian guy and was friends with him for the next 29 years.
I did have a 'over the sea bf' who was from Philippines. I met him in person also but the relationship did not last.



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30 Jun 2019, 7:19 pm

Lost count/not sure how to define. At least a few, possibly many.


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30 Jun 2019, 7:28 pm

Is this the number in adulthood, or also counting middle school and high school?
I've never bothered to count either way.


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30 Jun 2019, 11:14 pm

martianprincess wrote:
Is this the number in adulthood, or also counting middle school and high school?
I've never bothered to count either way.
From all time periods.



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30 Jun 2019, 11:28 pm

I had one girlfriend.
I wish it didn't count, though, because things went extremely poorly.



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01 Jul 2019, 11:32 am

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I had one girlfriend.
I wish it didn't count, though, because things went extremely poorly.


Try to learn from it and appreciate that you've gotten an experience that not everyone does. There's many posters here who would be happy to take all the negatives of that experience if it meant they'd get to have the positives too.


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01 Jul 2019, 4:56 pm

I had 2 serious, long term relationships before my current partner. We’ve been together for 10 years and aren’t married. My 2 previous relationships were with men, and my current partner and I were in a serious relationship with a woman together many years ago.



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01 Jul 2019, 6:17 pm

hurtloam wrote:
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And there's women like me and a few others I know who have always been single, no kids, no divorces. We do exist.


You will find a nice single man. Have patience. Don't rush in.


I was more complaining about cyberdad's list of female stereotypes.


Caveat: Based on my observations only :)



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01 Jul 2019, 7:28 pm

hurtloam wrote:
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hurtloam wrote:
And there's women like me and a few others I know who have always been single, no kids, no divorces. We do exist.


You will find a nice single man. Have patience. Don't rush in.


I was more complaining about cyberdad's list of female stereotypes.


Well, the good thing is that you can quickly disprove them by simply letting the other person know that you don't have kids and you were never married. But, as far as the stereotypes I am complaining about, such as "old men are creepy" that is a lot harder to disprove. I guess this goes in par with "old women are cougars", which are also hard to disprove.



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01 Jul 2019, 7:32 pm

QFT wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
Mountain Goat wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
And there's women like me and a few others I know who have always been single, no kids, no divorces. We do exist.


You will find a nice single man. Have patience. Don't rush in.


I was more complaining about cyberdad's list of female stereotypes.


Well, the good thing is that you can quickly disprove them by simply letting the other person know that you don't have kids and you were never married. But, as far as the stereotypes I am complaining about, such as "old men are creepy" that is a lot harder to disprove. I guess this goes in par with "old women are cougars", which are also hard to disprove.


Creepy older men and older women are likely a corelatory of people becoming more confident as they age, combined with understanding opportunities they missed earlier in life need to be pro-actively seized now if one wishes to check them off.

In my mid-late 20s I didn't sleep with 18-19 year olds, but at this point in my life I'll take every single one of those opportunities life throws at me, since I'm sure eventually life will stop throwing those pitches my way.


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01 Jul 2019, 7:40 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
QFT wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
Mountain Goat wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
And there's women like me and a few others I know who have always been single, no kids, no divorces. We do exist.


You will find a nice single man. Have patience. Don't rush in.


I was more complaining about cyberdad's list of female stereotypes.


Well, the good thing is that you can quickly disprove them by simply letting the other person know that you don't have kids and you were never married. But, as far as the stereotypes I am complaining about, such as "old men are creepy" that is a lot harder to disprove. I guess this goes in par with "old women are cougars", which are also hard to disprove.


Creepy older men and older women are likely a corelatory of people becoming more confident as they age, combined with understanding opportunities they missed earlier in life need to be pro-actively seized now if one wishes to check them off.

In my mid-late 20s I didn't sleep with 18-19 year olds, but at this point in my life I'll take every single one of those opportunities life throws at me, since I'm sure eventually life will stop throwing those pitches my way.


Well, in my case, I don't become "more confident" as you put it. On the contrary, I don't want to approach women and I keep waiting for them to approach me, and get frustrated that they don't.

So are you saying the reason women don't approach me is "because" they realize that "if" they appraoch, I probably "would" take those opportunities (which I would!! !) But wouldn't this imply that women want to approach people where the "offer won't be taken"? Kinda like women like to flirt with gay men for example?



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01 Jul 2019, 7:44 pm

QFT wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
QFT wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
Mountain Goat wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
And there's women like me and a few others I know who have always been single, no kids, no divorces. We do exist.


You will find a nice single man. Have patience. Don't rush in.


I was more complaining about cyberdad's list of female stereotypes.


Well, the good thing is that you can quickly disprove them by simply letting the other person know that you don't have kids and you were never married. But, as far as the stereotypes I am complaining about, such as "old men are creepy" that is a lot harder to disprove. I guess this goes in par with "old women are cougars", which are also hard to disprove.


Creepy older men and older women are likely a corelatory of people becoming more confident as they age, combined with understanding opportunities they missed earlier in life need to be pro-actively seized now if one wishes to check them off.

In my mid-late 20s I didn't sleep with 18-19 year olds, but at this point in my life I'll take every single one of those opportunities life throws at me, since I'm sure eventually life will stop throwing those pitches my way.


Well, in my case, I don't become "more confident" as you put it. On the contrary, I don't want to approach women and I keep waiting for them to approach me, and get frustrated that they don't.

So are you saying the reason women don't approach me is "because" they realize that "if" they appraoch, I probably "would" take those opportunities (which I would!! !) But wouldn't this imply that women want to approach people where the "offer won't be taken"? Kinda like women like to flirt with gay men for example?


Women often feel comfortable being friends with gay men because they know that the friendship won’t lead to anything awkward, like one person developing feelings for the other.

I think that most often women still expect the man to make the first move. It depends on where you live and how conservative people are there, though.


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01 Jul 2019, 7:45 pm

QFT wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
QFT wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
Mountain Goat wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
And there's women like me and a few others I know who have always been single, no kids, no divorces. We do exist.


You will find a nice single man. Have patience. Don't rush in.


I was more complaining about cyberdad's list of female stereotypes.


Well, the good thing is that you can quickly disprove them by simply letting the other person know that you don't have kids and you were never married. But, as far as the stereotypes I am complaining about, such as "old men are creepy" that is a lot harder to disprove. I guess this goes in par with "old women are cougars", which are also hard to disprove.


Creepy older men and older women are likely a corelatory of people becoming more confident as they age, combined with understanding opportunities they missed earlier in life need to be pro-actively seized now if one wishes to check them off.

In my mid-late 20s I didn't sleep with 18-19 year olds, but at this point in my life I'll take every single one of those opportunities life throws at me, since I'm sure eventually life will stop throwing those pitches my way.


Well, in my case, I don't become "more confident" as you put it. On the contrary, I don't want to approach women and I keep waiting for them to approach me, and get frustrated that they don't.

So are you saying the reason women don't approach me is "because" they realize that "if" they appraoch, I probably "would" take those opportunities (which I would!! !) But wouldn't this imply that women want to approach people where the "offer won't be taken"? Kinda like women like to flirt with gay men for example?


I'm only talking generically, not about you or any other individual specifically. The stereotype exists whether or not it applies to every single individual.

I don't believe women don't approach you because you might reciprocate. Reciprocation is the goal, who likes getting rejected? I'm sure some confused and/or ashamed and/or non-commital folks flirt with people unlikely to reciprocate, but that's not as common as likely done with different goals (you know, practice). I'd need to talk to these people to ascertain their goals, but I'm willing to guess it has more to do with them just not being interested in you.


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02 Jul 2019, 1:29 am

QFT wrote:
But, as far as the stereotypes I am complaining about, such as "old men are creepy" that is a lot harder to disprove. I guess this goes in par with "old women are cougars", which are also hard to disprove.


Plenty of creepy old men out there but the #Metoo movement has made it harder for us old lechers :lol:



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02 Jul 2019, 1:34 am

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Women often feel comfortable being friends with gay men because they know that the friendship won’t lead to anything awkward, like one person developing feelings for the other.


I've had a few gay friends/associates and one of the things they actually do dislike is being a single girl's "manbag". Ironically they are also looking for genuine friendship with either men or women and don't want a woman to use them as some type of social accessory.

My friendship with gay men in the mid-late 1980s was disastrous for my social life during the height of the AIDs crisis homophobia reached an all time high. Plenty of women back then were just as homophobic as well.