05 Jun 2012, 3:25 pm
05 Jun 2012, 3:26 pm
05 Jun 2012, 3:28 pm
Samual wrote:
This one time, at band camp,
he he
Samual wrote:
i was getting pretty friendly with this lovely girl whom i really enjoyed spending time with. During an after work party we were drinking and talking, then someone suggested getting in the pool for a swim. We did so and there was quite a bit of body contact. There was quite a lot of body contact. Just a bit of poolside fun i thought, oblivious.
Later that night a few of us decided to go back to her flat and we eventually crashed on the floor. The girl lay beside me on her side. We we face to face looking deep into eachothers eyes. She held my hand and squeezed it every couple of minutes or so, which i of course returned. She moved her arm and i felt a touch near my nether regions, to which in suprise i said "whoops, a bit low there" and her hand withdrew. A few minutes later her her breathing became heavier and she started to 'vibrate'. She soon ran off to the bathroom and i took that opportunity to close my eyes and fake sleeping. When she returned, she picked up my hand and began squeezing again, then when i wouldnt return it (in sleep), she started sqeezing like my hand was a dead animal and she was trying to revive it.
The next day she wouldnt look at me. I was confused.
It was only 2 years later that i realised what happened that night and what she was doing.
Later that night a few of us decided to go back to her flat and we eventually crashed on the floor. The girl lay beside me on her side. We we face to face looking deep into eachothers eyes. She held my hand and squeezed it every couple of minutes or so, which i of course returned. She moved her arm and i felt a touch near my nether regions, to which in suprise i said "whoops, a bit low there" and her hand withdrew. A few minutes later her her breathing became heavier and she started to 'vibrate'. She soon ran off to the bathroom and i took that opportunity to close my eyes and fake sleeping. When she returned, she picked up my hand and began squeezing again, then when i wouldnt return it (in sleep), she started sqeezing like my hand was a dead animal and she was trying to revive it.
The next day she wouldnt look at me. I was confused.
It was only 2 years later that i realised what happened that night and what she was doing.
ha ha. glad, nothing similar happened to me. I do not know whether I should be sad or glad about this.
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05 Jun 2012, 3:30 pm
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05 Jun 2012, 3:34 pm
NicoleG wrote:
ThinkingMonkey wrote:
There was a period of time when I thought that, when a girl dressed in a slu*ty way is talking to you, that means she is flirting with you. Lol. Glad that I know now, that its not flirting.
How she's dressed and the fact that she is talking to you doesn't indicate in-and-of-itself that she is or isn't flirting with you. She may be flirting, or she may not, but you cannot gauge that on ONLY how she's dressed or that she is speaking. She could simply happen to be provocatively dressed and speaking to you without meaning to be flirting.
well, i think i might figure out a girl is flirting with me if shes talking to me naked.
lol, not even in my dreams
05 Jun 2012, 3:40 pm
IlovemyAspie wrote:
It took my Aspie 9 months, 9 months I tell ya to realize I was interested in him. I brought him food, baked cookies, wrote love poems, visited, texted and emailed him every day. I smiled at him a lot, batted my eyes, touched him on his arm or back whenever I could. So one day he tells me it "seemed" I was interested him. I'm like "uh ya think"! ! At that time he told me he had AS. It all made sense. Maybe he started thinking about it earlier than that but at 9 months I guess he was convinced. I "turned up the volume" on the flirting during the 9 months. Not because I wanted to get laid ( although at some point it would have been nice! lol) but because he just wasn't "getting it". I know some people would have given up because it would seem the person wasn't interested. But for some reason I didn't. I usually don't give up on what I want so quickly.
We need more of people like you.
Also, why did you not tell him that you were interested in him? Did you know he was an aspie?
Okay, you have answered my one question here.
IlovemyAspie wrote:
ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote:
IlovemyAspie wrote:
It took my Aspie 9 months, 9 months I tell ya to realize I was interested in him. I brought him food, baked cookies, wrote love poems, visited, texted and emailed him every day. I smiled at him a lot, batted my eyes, touched him on his arm or back whenever I could. So one day he tells me it "seemed" I was interested him. I'm like "uh ya think"! ! At that time he told me he had AS. It all made sense. Maybe he started thinking about it earlier than that but at 9 months I guess he was convinced. I "turned up the volume" on the flirting during the 9 months. Not because I wanted to get laid ( although at some point it would have been nice! lol) but because he just wasn't "getting it". I know some people would have given up because it would seem the person wasn't interested. But for some reason I didn't. I usually don't give up on what I want so quickly.
Why didn't you put a move on him?
Before I decided to try and "woo" him, I considered myself a forward kind of person. I realized however that I'm actually on the shy side. I was used to guys coming up to me. I never went after a guy until now. I always thought I would be able to say "hey, I think we should go out" but I couldn't! So many times he would say something and I would want to follow up with some sort of sexual innuendo but I'd chicken out. One time I did and he looked clueless-now I know he really was!!
There was such a strong chemical attraction with him. I found myself acting like a fool for him. Sometimes I would think to myself "what are you doing? He doesn't seem to be interested". But the way he would look at me told me something was there. I started to pay attention to the little things he would do. Maybe that's what kept me chasing him, those little things. I knew there was something special about him, I just couldn't put my finger on it. And so I started writing him letters and poems to slowly reveal my intentions. That was my way of putting move on him.
Thewhitrbbt:super sweet of you!
But, did you know he was an aspie?
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05 Jun 2012, 3:52 pm
Joker wrote:
I can tell if girls are flirting with me when I flirt back. If they don't respond they where only teasing me which is a win win in my book 
hmmm.. Teach us some flirting so that we can use this
05 Jun 2012, 3:54 pm
05 Jun 2012, 3:58 pm
NicoleG wrote:
ThinkingMonkey wrote:
NicoleG wrote:
ThinkingMonkey wrote:
Also, why would a person show that they care to another person they barely know and if they are not interested in them for dating?
Caring about the well-being of another person doesn't require you to know them well. The better you know them, the most tailored how you show that you care can be, but generalized caring doesn't require detailed knowledge of the other person.
Isn't this empathy? and not caring in a sexually way that apparently a person displays while flirting.
No. Empathy is being able to feel what the other person is feeling (emotional). Sympathizing is being able to understand what someone else is going through (rational). Caring is wanting things to turn out well for the other person (altruism).
Some people flirt to cheer the other person up because they care, and other people flirt because they are trying to get something out of the other person, and sometimes it's a combination of the two. The person flirting may or may not be including empathy, sympathy, or caring depending on the situation and their reasons for flirting.
Does that make sense?
Yes, makes sense. Thanks for the explanation.
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05 Jun 2012, 4:00 pm
05 Jun 2012, 4:00 pm
MXH wrote:
NicoleG wrote:
ThinkingMonkey wrote:
There was a period of time when I thought that, when a girl dressed in a slu*ty way is talking to you, that means she is flirting with you. Lol. Glad that I know now, that its not flirting.
How she's dressed and the fact that she is talking to you doesn't indicate in-and-of-itself that she is or isn't flirting with you. She may be flirting, or she may not, but you cannot gauge that on ONLY how she's dressed or that she is speaking. She could simply happen to be provocatively dressed and speaking to you without meaning to be flirting.
well, i think i might figure out a girl is flirting with me if shes talking to me naked.
lol, not even in my dreams
he he funny..
05 Jun 2012, 4:16 pm
ThinkingMonkey wrote:
IlovemyAspie wrote:
It took my Aspie 9 months, 9 months I tell ya to realize I was interested in him. I brought him food, baked cookies, wrote love poems, visited, texted and emailed him every day. I smiled at him a lot, batted my eyes, touched him on his arm or back whenever I could. So one day he tells me it "seemed" I was interested him. I'm like "uh ya think"! ! At that time he told me he had AS. It all made sense. Maybe he started thinking about it earlier than that but at 9 months I guess he was convinced. I "turned up the volume" on the flirting during the 9 months. Not because I wanted to get laid ( although at some point it would have been nice! lol) but because he just wasn't "getting it". I know some people would have given up because it would seem the person wasn't interested. But for some reason I didn't. I usually don't give up on what I want so quickly.
We need more of people like you.
Also, why did you not tell him that you were interested in him? Did you know he was an aspie?
Okay, you have answered my one question here.
IlovemyAspie wrote:
ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote:
IlovemyAspie wrote:
It took my Aspie 9 months, 9 months I tell ya to realize I was interested in him. I brought him food, baked cookies, wrote love poems, visited, texted and emailed him every day. I smiled at him a lot, batted my eyes, touched him on his arm or back whenever I could. So one day he tells me it "seemed" I was interested him. I'm like "uh ya think"! ! At that time he told me he had AS. It all made sense. Maybe he started thinking about it earlier than that but at 9 months I guess he was convinced. I "turned up the volume" on the flirting during the 9 months. Not because I wanted to get laid ( although at some point it would have been nice! lol) but because he just wasn't "getting it". I know some people would have given up because it would seem the person wasn't interested. But for some reason I didn't. I usually don't give up on what I want so quickly.
Why didn't you put a move on him?
Before I decided to try and "woo" him, I considered myself a forward kind of person. I realized however that I'm actually on the shy side. I was used to guys coming up to me. I never went after a guy until now. I always thought I would be able to say "hey, I think we should go out" but I couldn't! So many times he would say something and I would want to follow up with some sort of sexual innuendo but I'd chicken out. One time I did and he looked clueless-now I know he really was!!
There was such a strong chemical attraction with him. I found myself acting like a fool for him. Sometimes I would think to myself "what are you doing? He doesn't seem to be interested". But the way he would look at me told me something was there. I started to pay attention to the little things he would do. Maybe that's what kept me chasing him, those little things. I knew there was something special about him, I just couldn't put my finger on it. And so I started writing him letters and poems to slowly reveal my intentions. That was my way of putting move on him.
Thewhitrbbt:super sweet of you!
But, did you know he was an aspie?
No I had no idea. Didn't know til he told me. Like I said, I knew there was something special about him but I couldn't put my finger on it. But I think it is his Aspie traits that make him attractive to me. He's differnent from anyone I've ever met or dated. That stood out, in a good way. He's physically attractive as well but I'm speaking personality wise. I never really paid attention to how handsome he was. It was a chemical attraction. Now when I look in his eyes and he looks into mine, I realize he's beautfiul inside and out.
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We need more of people like you.
Thank you!
You guys have been so sweet to me.
05 Jun 2012, 4:28 pm
IlovemyAspie wrote:
No I had no idea. Didn't know til he told me. Like I said, I knew there was something special about him but I couldn't put my finger on it. But I think it is his Aspie traits that make him attractive to me. He's differnent from anyone I've ever met or dated. That stood out, in a good way. He's physically attractive as well but I'm speaking personality wise. I never really paid attention to how handsome he was. It was a chemical attraction. Now when I look in his eyes and he looks into mine, I realize he's beautfiul inside and out.
Nice to know you did not give up. And appreciate the fact that you gave importance to personality.
IlovemyAspie wrote:
Thank you! You guys have been so sweet to me.
You guys have been so sweet to me.
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