How to deal with unwanted attention?

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Fake set of teeth that looks horrendous

When someone invades my personal space from now on I might just try screaming "DON'T TOUCH ME YOU CREEP!" at the top of my lungs, as it would probably frequently cause shame/humiliation etc.

I just worry if I react that way I might wind up with someone following me until he can get me alone as that's scarier than most anything to me right now.

I'm just f*cking sick of being polite to men who are anything but... and I don't think I should have to wear a faux wedding ring. I don't wear rings in the first place but I wore one of the rings that was my Bubby's and I'm not really comfortable wearing those.

It's ridiculous that this is a problem and it's ridiculous that I've never made a big deal about it.

I do carry pepper spray. I don't pull it out unless I'm completely alone and it's necessary.

My best advice is to always trust one's instincts about what to do in such situations.
Given, Aspies sometimes have difficulty assessing people, but the potential consequences for acting too conservatively are far greater than not making a fuss.

I chose to ignore my better instincts last year, and it nearly ended very badly for me.

I used to trust my instincts and it usually worked out. Recently I become almost physically ill when any unfamiliar male approaches me. It makes my skin crawl.

You tell them to %^&* off . Really they say where blind

I guess it comes down to your city, my city is pretty tolerant and you won't see this kind of behaviour around here. Maybe time to move to a more tolerant city?

Hope you get peace some day.

NUKEM!! Get them before they get you!!

Solution: earbuds.

The responses here are sad and pathetic. Both sides. And people wonder why i have no faith in humanity. Its all justifying their actions, not actually thinking about them.

Heat, well, it happens to dogs and cats so why not us ASPIE's. I mean our bodies might be physiologically different than an NT's body. In my case I get it intermittantly throughout the year with an increased attractiveness when in pain and during the Autumn. My suggestion is bathe so that whatever scent you may be giving off is might be washed off. How you dress really has nothing to do with this issue, at least that is what I have found. Guys will at this time hit on me whether I am dressed like a fashion model from Ted Baker's or in clothes' I got at the Veteran's Stand-Down. It really does not seem to matter to them. I suspect maybe this scent is a primal ancient mating scent that the NT's ancestors' might have had and still attracts them. it is a minor annoyance. Find a police/security officer to help if things get out of hand or scream. Screaming and making a scene does wonders--you'll see.

As much as I understand how distressing this is for you, I'm glad you also understand that by causing victims, you're also endangering every other female in your area.

It's very simple.
You take a low-confidence guy with a history of painful/malicious rejections, who genuinely wants to be accepted and approaches - wham! another shotgun blast to the face - becomes a misogynist and decides to take the risk out of dating permanently.

Ironic.

I had the shotgun approach repeatedly at school and I haven't even been able to approach another female for the next TEN years. And now I'm reading that's supposedly acceptable behavior?

You what, I'll just start calling every girl, or woman, fat and other weight insults, irrelevant of any situation and see how they feel, because I'll bet that at least one of them becomes anorexic because of those words.

You shoot down all guys - irreverent of any situation or approach or whatever - you are personally responsible for whatever happens next.

No you don't. Seriously, me and one other person are the only ones that are actually paying attention to the OP's recent experiences. They are relevant here. I don't wanna say more because it's nobody's place to make it a topic of conversation in the open.



They've smartened up enough to know that some women dress in baggy clothes to intentionally look unattractive. So they see a girl dressed in baggy clothes and think "hot girl trying to disguise the fact she's hot". They see it as a challenge, not as a deterrent.

Oh pur-lease, like she's the only one to ever been distressed. Showing a bit of sympathy is not a crime. My points still stand.

So you know what happened to the OP roughly 7-8 weeks ago?

Just say what the f*ck you looking at?! With an angry rage ful look in your eyes!!

Other people have suffered equal or worse distress than this "situation" that hasn't been clarified. Could be just a random person saying hello at this rate.