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I'm not criticizing your reasoning, I was describing why it doesn't make sense in my own perspective.

I don't have as strong a 'special interest' as some aspies, but my interests involve programming, art, and creating music (I tend to rotate between them), none of which I would need someone to be interested in. I feel that someone can have different interests from my own, but still be interesting to me, herself. Even if we are into different things we can still be emotionally compatible, and I would participate in the things she likes if she wanted me to, if only to share more time together.

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Leafplant, my knowledge of the inner workings of OKCupid's system is limited to what little information they provide on their website, and my experiences using the site. As best as I can recall, the "personality profile" uses your responses to the questions, and compares them to other OKCupid users of the same gender. When I had an OKCupid account, on several occasions I tried fiddling around with the questions: which ones I responded to, what level of importance I rated them, and what responses I considered acceptable. After doing so, I would do a new search for matches, and check what OKCupid listed as my "personality profile". The changes did not help in terms of the matching with women, but in some instances removing/skipping a question or two produced large changes in how my "personality profile" compared to other men. (For the "Manners" example, you might want to try removing questions to do with polite and impolite behaviour and speech.) I believe that some questions are not related to any of the personality dimensions.

I would take OKCupid's "personality profile" and match scores with a large grain of salt, because of the issues I mentioned in my previous post and because the people behind OKCupid have clearly invested very little time and effort in the whole thing. I suspect that if one is going to spend a lot of time answering these sorts of matching questions, and rely on them for finding potential partners, then one would be better off using a site that charges fees (such as eHarmony.com, parship.com, and perfectmatch.com). At least those sites are less likely to sell your information to advertising and marketing companies.

Are you a musician?

And I am pretty sure that this special interest isn't your only requirement in a partner, there are certainly other requirements like looks , education, job...etc.

I mean you might find someone on okc who likes this band, but happens to be morbidly obese, in his case you wouldn't want him as a bf (I am assuming you aren't attracted to over-obese..). On the other hand, he might happens to be TOO handsome for you.

With all those normal requirements + this mandatory special interest + X requirements (if there are more mandatory crazy requirements) + chances he might not find you attractive + chance you might not find him attractive, you are just guaranteeing yourself to die single.

Despite the bad matches I get, I just realized that the 'Personality' tab of mine (with the bars relating you to the 'average') is perfectly accurate.

Yeah most likely.

Hmm I almost never look at that tab, but mine's pretty accurate as well. Except for the one with the longest bar (??) and a couple of others.

Not sure if I should be worried about how many "Less" things I have, though.

My personality profile changed drastically as I got over a several year long depression and I started picking and choosing my answers more.
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