13 Oct 2016, 1:41 am
hurtloam wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Is that this guy again or a new crush who's shy?
If he's that one, you should let it go - you have wasted too much time on this one already.
If he's that one, you should let it go - you have wasted too much time on this one already.
One of my friends was saying to me, "don't be sad that it's over, be glad that it happened." But nothing happened. I'm always stuck in beginnings. It's frustrating.
That's why I'm sad. I can't work out what I'm doing wrong all the time. Each time I meet a new guy it goes nowhere.
This one hurts more because he actually seemed to genuinely like me.
Story of my life
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13 Oct 2016, 2:37 am
13 Oct 2016, 2:45 am
Sorry that you're sad sweetie 
This may cheer you up?
https://youtu.be/xn9LQZ5tdys
The more I read you, dear hurtloam, the more I start to think it might be a social anxiety disorder getting outta control 
I just wish you would be able to experience some kind of success that can boost your confidence, self-esteem and self-image
13 Oct 2016, 6:34 am
beakybird wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
I'm japan they have this "meet another person" kinda smart phone app where if you are within approach distance of somebody else with this app it will alert you both at the same time with an audible alert that you both can simultaneously hear. ahead of time the app is programmed with your preferences and alerts when somebody else with that app enabled who has selected the same preferences comes walking along. mebbe something like this would be the answer should it be available in the west.
That's not good design to me...
It work better if it were an alert to you, then you can select yes or no and if you both said yes, it's let you both know, other wise whatever. No embarrassment. If I know I dramatically decreased the probability of quick rejection, it'd be far easier to approach women.
Personally I prefer the original app, it's about time modern dating sites and apps move away from the 'Tinderization' of dating.
I'd much rather a face-to-face rejection even if it's awkward than just our usual cold swiping no to the digital screen.
But your idea isn't bad - maybe providing a profile picture for when you show up as someone's match and then getting the option to say yes or no can work as well and the other person saying a yes or no could work.
Be pretty funny though to be rejected BEFORE you even make the approach.
What I'm wondering though is even if you can say 'yes' or 'no' first, what do we do when the 'alert' sound effect is loud enough the two people can still hear the other person's anyway?
13 Oct 2016, 6:58 am
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13 Oct 2016, 7:08 am
13 Oct 2016, 7:50 am
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13 Oct 2016, 7:51 am
hurtloam wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
I would just want to talk to him without him trying to get away to hide his anxiety. That's all I want. For him to be relaxed enough to talk to me. Then maybe we could arrange to do something together like go for coffee or go to a gig.
a genuine unforced smile is disarming, do you make it a point to do that?
Yes
I wish I could observe.
