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Not all the time. Sorry to say this but if you believe that online dating won't work, then you must be a real pessimist. If you believe online dating works, it will. I'm saying this is because I've had many experiences with faith any being positive really does work.



I don't get the joke here.

OK, what I mean is that if there is one topic per person, you can just write a new post in the own topic instead of copying and editing your entire profile again.

Lets face it: this topic is of little use: all persons (regardless of age, location, sex, ...) are jammed in one long topic, a topic of so many pages that nobody reads the profiles on page 23 or 47.

Why not create a subforum where every singleton here can create 1 topic about himself? Topic title should include gender, location and age. One topic per single person allowed.
In this way it becomes a lot easier to have a good overview. I proposed this numerous times before, maybe I should PM Alex because I have the impression moderators never gave any feedback (neither positive nor negative) about my proposal.

I have to agree with you. I'm in full support of your idea here.

Not all the time. Sorry to say this but if you believe that online dating won't work, then you must be a real pessimist. If you believe online dating works, it will. I'm saying this is because I've had many experiences with faith any being positive really does work.

I believe online dating only works in a structured enviroment. For instance, E-Harmony and Match.com, that are reputable sites that have compatibility tests and do their bests to match you up with someone you are naturally compatible with personality wise. I reiterate, Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love, True Love (Consummate Love)= Passion + Intimacy + Commitment. Through these dating sites, if you find someone who you are compatible with through intimacy (friendship/shared interests), commitment is easy because you'll want to be around each other. Passion is the last piece of the puzzle, I think that fufilling the intimacy and commitment approach of E-Harmony is why that company does well.

Now dating on forums, no structure, no safety, no compatibility tests, nothing that can accurately prove that a relationships might plausibly work. You would be better asking out a random guy and girl in a mall, because you don't know who you might be talking to here. Internet dating is abstract at best, people need to interact in close proximity with each other (physically) for it to be meaningful.

And there's also Aspie Affection.

Sorry for my words. In a way, your right but sometimes it might work out here y'know.



Thanks to you, I found a dating site where I can easily find myself my special someone. Thanks Tim. Man that Aspie Affection is good....

I think, you are far too concentrated on superficial things like location...
There are airports everywhere! Most aspies I know are either unemployed or selfemployed working from home - and have no relations to people that bind them to a place. What's the matter of packing your things then and going to live somewhere else, if there is a person that you like waiting for you?
Also, getting to know each other is not really a matter of seeing each other in reality a lot - esp. with aspies.
We hate to be too often too near to someone, we do not want to be stared at or look at someones eyes, we do not really care for the looks of someone ...etc.... at least if we are really typical aspies.
It is much easier esp. for us, to get to know someone through the facts of personal life (what he/she likes, .., how he/she reacts to things...)
Just because we are more fact oriented than the bunch of neurotypical "interpreters" the online contact making should be easier and more promising for us than for the rest of that wrong planet!! !!

So, guys, don't hide behind the things you build up as obstacles! Write nice letters to some of the girls out here and they will be delighted and the rest will come naturally!! !

Angie

Travel by airplane, I have no doubt whatsoever, is relatively expensive, and I think should only be used for extreme matters and cases. We might not be location bound, but if you move to another place and find that it isn't what you wanted, you tend to be stuck with that situation.



Very true, I forgot that in my earlier message. Yes, talking online does build up some base of intimacy which can be pursued later on. We do "hate to be too often too near to someone, we do not want to be stared at or look at someones eyes, we do not really care for the looks of someone ...etc.... at least if we are really typical aspies". It might make the person we are chatting to interested in us more than what would happen socially. However, for anything meaningful and romantic to come out of it, the two parties must be in close proximity to engage in verbal intimacy, passion (which can only be carried out physically, not cyberly), and commitment. In a sense, you can have intimacy and commitment online, but it is rather superficial, and considering you don't have the passion element in play, it ensures that nothing deep and romantic will not occur given the circumstances.




Very debatable. I am one of those "nice guy" types, even despite my skepticism on here. I am very gentleman-like and respectful, and it has not served me well. I could say it hasn't worked with many of my autistic brethern. Kindness does not mean that girls will care for you, it just means you're a good person who is compassionate. I won't get into the "girls like jerk guys" routine, but like I said, niceness is not indicative of female attraction towards nice guys.

17 female US i like music 'specially playing piano and guitar and singing. I act at school. i am really sarcastic. I like boys and food and fairy tales. I read alot . I've been on the spectrum for 3 years.

Don't you mean that you've been diagnosed as being on the spectrum for three years? I'm pretty sure that you were on the spectrum from birth. lol

diagnosed at age 14 so you were right...kinda

Hello there,

I am 25/m/Australian in Sydney


I'm very honest, decent, kindhearted & intelligent, + more (ISFJ personality

Short list of Interests :- Gardening, Cooking, BBQs, Cuddling, Sentimental Music, Eating Out At Restaurants, Dancing (sometimes), Computers, Pets, Animals, Treating Women nicely, etc...

Blonde hair/Green eyes 5'9"/150lbs

I'm a 27 year old male grad student in New York City. Any intellectual women in the area, feel free to drop me a message. In fact, please do!

Hi I'm a 22 Year Old Male from Sydney/Australia, looking for a female.

Here's a bit about me:

-I'm a determied, resislient, hardly giving up person.

-I'm also kind hearted, nice, honest and a bit of a joker/clown too

-I also love parodies and I'm a deep thinker and can be pretty analytical too.

-Some of my close friends say I'm a pretty good motivator and good listener.

-My inspiration comes from using soccer physolosphies and applying it to real life(e.g. the match ain't over till it's over).

-I also use physolosphies from Phoenix Wright: Ace Attorney games like how sometimes it doesn't matter whether you win or lose but it's about finding the truth.

-And I'm pretty open-minded too

Here are some of the things I do and interests:

Activities:
-ASPECTS (Social Group for people with Asperger's Disorder)
-Japanese Beginner's Class at College.

Interests:
Anime, DBZ, Full Metal Panic: Fumofuu, and some other animes, 2D Fighting Video Games, WCCF, some other video games too, Parodies.

Favorite Music:
Mainly inspirational music (e.g. like) Shannon Noll's song "Lift", some Apollo Justice tracks, and anything else that sounds good.

Favorite TV Shows:
Mostly soccer related stuff

Favorite Movies:
The Punisher (2004 ver), Movies with, Samuel L Jackson, Jet Li, Jackie Chan, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Action, Sci-fi, underdog type movies, (like GOAL trilogy), Zero to Hero, type movies, Comedies, esp., parodies, XD

And yeah I have to agree this thread needs to be organise better cause it's kinda hard for people to read each other's profile if it's all jammed up in one long thread.....

hmmmmmmm, epic awesome....... do u play wow? just sounds like something a wow player would say sorry if im wrong

I am 6'1", 225 pounds, muscular build because I work out.

I like reading, writing, smoking, drinking, and having a fun time. I am into martial arts, have practiced a closed Chinese system for 11 years, and I also enjoy sparring, fencing, and wrestling.

And I am not generally an advocate of monogamy, so unless I REALLY REALLY like you, there's no chance of marrying. Guess you'll have to make me REALLY REALLY like you.

Here are some criteria a female must meet:

* If you are blonde, you have no chance with me.

* Black raven hair.

* Slender AND short. (petite)

* Must have a very fiery temper

* Must be able to debate

* Must be able to wrestle

* Must be relatively smart