Ok, now I'm really confused . . .

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Well, good thing we fixed it for y'all.

What kind of blues do you play? Besides the kind that comes naturally. I'm a fan of the Delta blues, old school. Leadbelly, Skip James, Robert Johnson.

Sorry you're down. Me too, kinda. You can come on over to my thread. We're having a co-ed ice cream and PJ party!

damn colonial upstarts! jk
i'm not sure how to define what i play.. anything from Robert Johnson to Matt schofield,. guitar mostly, although i sing too (to myself anyway) thanks for your offer, it's about 6:30am here though & i'll soon sleep or go for a walk..
i really struggle to keep up with WP, i think perhaps it's an ADHD thing, too many threads!! you know?
*shameless self-promotion* i have a bluesy guitar duel on my myspace page.. it's the 3rd one on the list i think & the only 12bar blues on there.. me vs my old mentor..
he won lol

Excuuuuuuse me?! Y'all have "mangled" the mother tongue as much as we have...
I've never heard anyone talk like Chaucer except in plays!
But speaking of mangles... why can't y'all just call a beet a beet? Aubergine?! Bloody H.
Just remember... on either side of the pond, don't split your infinitives, it drives the grammar police wild!

My advice is to just go along with what she suggests; let her take the lead until you figure out what she's after, she might be wanting a friend, or she's engaged but likes you, or the "engaged" thing is just for some random reason (I once changed my facebook status to "married" as a joke), or any number of possibilities.

Don't think too hard at this stage, just follow her lead. The least you'll get out of it is a good friendship, which in my opinion is worth its weight in gold.

Just invite her to the BBQ already.

if she essentially "asked" to be invited, as it seems to me, then i must agree with billsmith.
you like this girl, you like BBQ.. win-win so to speak.

^I concur. Do it.

And Fudo, that is some awesome music! If I'm ever in the UK, I fully expect you to have a booked gig. I'm there, dude.

Btw, this is part of the problem with a lot of long-term single guys -- if a girl isn't single at the time they meet, they give up on her right away. Girls don't like being treated as a means to an end -- they want to be treated like people too. Make the friendship first, then see what goes on in her life. She might become available later on (if she isn't now) or might have a pretty friend she can intro you to.

I would suggest inviting her and her fiancee to the bbq. That gives her the opportunity to explain the situation. I agree that people will put on myspace that they're in a relationship so they cut down on spammers (I did this). I would highly recommend staying away from her if she is engaged and flirting. If she does it to him, she'll do it to you.

I don't have a problem with making the friendship first (in fact, I prefer it that way), but I would never get with a woman that I know has a boyfriend. If she was serious enough to date me without getting rid of her existing boyfriend, that means that she's just as likely to date some other guy after a potential relationship was underway... If she thinks its not working out and wants to move on, that's perfectly fine, but she's not going to have it both ways if I have anything to say about it...

No harm in asking a friend to a BBQ.

Overall she either likes you despite the engagement or she is just stringing you along for he own amusement. Hate to say it but right now I'm leaning towards the second option.

Well, no hope here. She's actually getting married early next month. D'oh. Oh well. Maybe in 2012, when I meet the next girl I seem to hit it off with (it seems to only happen every 3 years for me), she'll be single. If not, the world's supposed to end that year anyway

Oh shoot. So how'd you finally find out?
And how's the activist?

T'is best not to have all your eggs in one basket...

I wouldn't wait 3 years to meet the next one... I mean, if the world's gonna end in 2012, what have you got to lose by taking risks anyway? Whether or not you make a fool of yourself, you end up dead. And you could have a heck of a fine time in the mean time.

It's not that I choose to wait 3 years, it just seems that's the cycle. I honestly don't know a single, single female and don't have any viable ways of meeting any. The last time was in 2006, the company I worked for hired some new people and one was a cute girl who ended up in a cubicle across from me. We just started joking with each other and found that we had a bunch of common interests which lead to me finding out that it was her (current) boyfriend who helped her get the job there. The time before that was in 2003.