Barbarossa wrote:
So what if it doesn't help propogate the species? Neither does homosexuality. There's nothing wrong with it. And I've spoken to plenty of asexual people who don't seem particularly f****-in-the-head.
I'm not 19, I'm 21. But I see nothing wrong with me not being so desperate for sex that I'd do virtually anything to get it. I guess my aspergers/ocd/anxiety are stronger than my sex drive, and tbh I'm glad of that. Sure I might get sexually frustrated, but at least I don't go out f***ing every woman who'll let me. I'd be more concerned if my need for sex was so strong that it overcame my social/communications barriers that are currently preventing me from getting any.
Someone can want sex but not be prepared to ut that above everything else they value. Maybe that's abnormal, but I'd rather be like that than like you dude
Actually, the book "Sperm Wars" proposes that homosexuality does propagate the human species in some way. It might be through helping out one's relatives, it might be that an amazingly high number of gay people have had straight sex with the opposite gender -- whatever the reason, we consistently see it in the population across many mammalian animal species.
Getting sexually frustrated is a good thing -- it means your hormones are working. Being picky is also a good thing. So I don't see that we disagree on either of these points -- I also would much rather do without (or do self service) than stoop to a level I'm not comfortable with in terms of partner choice.
That being said, being sexually active (in a safe way) is a normal part of a healthy existence. I can tell you that in the two periods of my life where I was involuntarily celibate (due to either lack of interest in me by others, or my lack of interest in the choice of girls I had at the time), I was miserable, angry, and getting worse with every day that passed. I was sinking into depression, feeling worthless, feeling unloved, and hopeless. I see these same emotions echoed here all the time by people who are in a similar situation now, and I really feel for them, because that was me too.
But once I finally "got back on the horse" and started getting regular sex again, everything changed. People could see it in me -- friends, family, strangers -- I was happy again, and confident. It's a well-known rule that when you are lonely, nobody wants you, but as soon as you finally get a girlfriend, all sorts of women, even those who don't know your girlfriend or even that you are involved, suddenly become interested in you. It's because of the change in your emotional state, and how you come off to the world. For most of us, sex is an important part of living.
16 Jun 2009, 1:49 pm
