Confused and wondering why this always happens to me

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You are wrong about the cat/radio incident. That is a class moment Most people would find it funny. Maybe you should train you cat to step on the radio on cue next time.

Early rejection is good. She is not trying string you along. Black and white thinking can be problem for some people. You need to have some flexibility on what you hold people to account for. People can always change their minds.

KenM

Like you say, you had a typical phone call, planned a date and got dissapointed by it's cancel AGAIN. Just like before, and the one before that... and the others years along before that. You are trying...

If women are demons then you are Satan lol.

I always read here about "vibes", often "women feel vibes".

Women are humans and not radars, they don't feel vibes, vibes thing is magazines's talk and there's no such thing,women are not mind readers either.
There's what s called cause and effect instead of your vibes myth,the cause migt be anything ,maybe she got a date with a better male, remember females get tons of contacts on dating sites, maybe she hot scared of the idea....etc.whatever was the cause ,the effect was rejection.

What s sure tho that it was not something happened on the phone,if ken's story is true,then she wouldn't invite him at the end of the conversation. Oh,and no one can feel a "connection" based on a one phone combo,that silly. All these are execuses and the ones who beleive are naiive.

I second Janissy any the risks of Online dating for girls,If I had a daughter I wouldn't encourage her, not after the fake okcupid experience,it was crazy how many girls trusted this fake person I created and how many personel contacts,phones,personal emails he received with just simple manipulation.what if I was worse than just a pranker?What if i was a rapist or psycho? That was more scary than fun,good that hani is dead Now :p

Have you considered it might be your voice as such? Have you compared it to others in frequence and tone shifting?

You mght have been too serious. Try to crack a few jokes next time. Lightheartedness.

Ken, you're completely right - there's not really any excuse for what she did. But it still doesn't mean women are demons from hell. I've never had a problem with you being bitter about your past experiences because I can understand where you're coming from, it's just the attitude you took - e.g. the demons from hell thing, giving up, thinking all women are just b*****s - that I disagreed with.

I'm sorry this happened to you again. I'm sure it'll work out for you one day.

I know I'm very harsh and bitter. But when the same stuff happens to me 99% of the time with 99% of the women I'm interested in, how else would I be?

Did you show your picture before or after the phone convo?

Maybe the women you're Interested in aren't right for you. No offense but maybe you need to be a bit less judgemental of people? I was reading some of your old posts, you dumped your ex-girlfriend because she smoked pot.

You seem to target a tiny sliver of people... perhaps you need to give a wider range of people a chance.

One more reason why i shall state that internet dating is not a good way to go. The best way to get a date is in 3D. Real life. Not this internet stuff. (How ^&*%%^ NT for me to say that...I know more than anyone what you're going through - at least women are noticing you. No woman ever notices me in real life).

Okay, she cancelled on you. Big Deal! Maybe she wasn't ready yet - who knows what lurks behind beautiful eyes? Perhaps there just wasn't a connection. It is unfortunate, but it happens all of the time. Luckily for you, there are 3 billion other women to ask out. Sometimes, things just don't work out. And remember this; most have to go through hundreds of "no"s before they find that "yes". You have to just keep trying, and don't take rejection so hard.