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20 Sep 2009, 7:31 pm

So, I have spent a decent bit of my weekend thinking about this and I'm still not really sure what to do about the situation. Under this false veil of innocence, I suspect she's probably going to make an attempt to crush me tomorrow by being all giddy while telling me she hooked up with that 29 yr old grad student. I can just respond back by "innocently" telling her about my weekend in DC (obviously showing that I'm onto her) and subsequently take the escape chute in my relationship with her. Or I can just ignore her from here on out and not talk to her again (this is probably the smart thing to do). I have no idea what to do. I feel like calling her out (I mean come on, the grappling thing and all the smooching in the theater), but the ensuing drama would be intense and that's not what I'm about.

The thing is that, if I break her off, then I will have no real relationships with girls of any kind (nobody really wants to talk to their one night stand that lives 200+ miles away) and this depresses me to no end because I realized I actually enjoy the company of girls throughout the course of this thing. I've got really mixed feelings about this whole thing, because honestly she is a good friend I connect with well (albeit one that seems to thrive on sexually charged male attention in her direction). fuuuucccck



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05 Oct 2009, 1:37 am

I'm sending u a PM



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06 Oct 2009, 8:13 pm

roadGames wrote:
So I'm sure as you all know, I bit the bullet and approached this girl that fell below my "standards" last spring during my last semester of college. We go on a date, she makes out with me, but then I ask her to go on another date and she's says "I'm not looking for a relationship right now." Surprisingly, I basically feel pretty heart broken after this and spend most of the summer sort of depressed. I guess it's when we can't have someone that we really start to appreciate them. We hang out once more after that and have some good conversations, although there is no flirty vibe in the air.

This brings us to yesterday, where after talking on AIM a bit, we decide to have dinner that evening. One of the first things she does is ask me how much I make at my new job (I refuse to tell her, but it's a lot for a new grad). In addition, the flirty vibe was back in basically full force again and it's like she never rejected me a few months ago. During the dinner she's telling me how I should teach her to grapple (she's into karate) like I said I would (wtf, this is basically full body contact and the positions are very compromising...I don't think I'd be able to do it with a girl I like). This is like literally the ultimate cock tease/lead on move.

During the movie, she's constantly touching me, I put my arm around her shoulder, and I fall asleep on her shoulder and she places her head on mine. I honestly wanted to get more physical with her, but a couple things alarmed me about her during the dinner conversation. Amongst these was that almost all her friends are dudes and she kept harping on about some 29 yr old grad student nerd (sort of like me, lol). She also told me about how affectionate she gets when she's drunk. In addition, she's staying at her rich girlfriend's mansion this weekend with her economics club buddies and amongst these buddies is that grad student. Of course there's going to be a bunch of alcohol at that place, and if you add two and two together, she's going to be f***ing him.

Which I give no sh** about since we're not dating (although yesterday might've been one? I have no idea), but honestly, if she were into me, she wouldn't be telling me this stuff. On top of that, she knows I'm into her as I already asked her out once. I've got a feeling this girl just adores leading people on.

I don't necessarily need this girl in my life anymore, either. I found out that I'm really good at talking to random girls at parties last weekend and hit it off with a bunch of more attractive/intelligent girls in DC (who, of course, live too far away from me). She was just this girl I initially just wanted to use to get rid of my fear of talking to girls and has served that purpose perfectly. Me falling for her was just a side effect of what happens when you hit it off with a girl so well. So, if she doesn't want to reciprocate, then why the heck bother hanging out with her again, even if it is to show her how to grapple. She loves taking guys to the edge of a cliff and then just disappearing/disappointing. Odds are, she'll just leave me hanging with a boner, she'll know it, and I'll probably drive my car home depressed as all hell. Do I really need that? Nope. Honestly, I tried to block this girl out of my life a month or so after she rejected me, but she just kept calling and IMing me.


Yeah, some girls can be too good to be true.



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23 Oct 2009, 2:07 pm

Hrm. Well at least(Well, for NT standards) She's more transparant then glass.

Now for a rather funny possiblility..

If she was just toying with you, and you actually cared...Heh..It might just be she was suprised by your caring..

I mean, if you act like she's acting, I doubt most guys give her more then rhetoric and an orgasm.



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23 Oct 2009, 2:39 pm

This thread makes me depressed and paranoid


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23 Oct 2009, 7:56 pm

Indeed she's poison, but by that standard so are about 30% of all people - men and women alike.



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25 Oct 2009, 6:37 pm

polymathpoolplayer wrote:
Indeed she's poison, but by that standard so are about 30% of all people - men and women alike.


Chocolate - makes humans happy, kills dogs.

Whores - make players happy, makes others kill themselves.

Some poisons are not universal.