Parenting, yea or nay?

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I completely agree! I have all kinds of social experiments I'd like to run on toddlers and infants. I'd really like to know what amount of sociability is learned and what is taught. For example I'd like to raise a group of babies in total isolation from society/adults and see if they develop means to communicate with each other and etc. It would be soooo interesting to study their behaviors and communication styles. Basically, to see how a pure unadulterated human would behave without all the social impositions children are inevitably raised with.
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I'm totally not a freak.

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I totally think this would be an amazing experiment. Curse you, morals!

As for the kid thing, I don't really know. I think I always grew up just assuming I'd get married and have kids, but I'm not sure if that's what I want anymore.

And then there's the whole "childbirth" thing. << Maybe I should just adopt.

My experience with kids is that I like them when I don't live with them, but that may be because my little sister is a brat and I have no authority over her to get her to do as I ask. Sometimes you just need people to do what you tell them to, but if they're not willing to give you the respect then it's so frustrating. Kids I've worked with at libraries have in general been much more easy to deal with.

So I don't know. :/ But hey, I'm seventeen and have never had a real boyfriend, so it's not like there's any pressure for me to have to decide right now.

Many people have said "no" due to impatience with children...

Now, I don't have any particular impatience with children, I have impatience with idiots. Obviously, my hypothetical children would not be idiots.

Oh yes, obviously. Good point.

My hypothetical children shall be genetically engineered to not be idiotic.

Absolutely not! I was eight years old when I decided to never have children. That was 49 years ago, I still do not like children.

Hypothetical children may not be idiots but actual children absolutely will be at several points throughout their childhood, geniuses included. There is no IQ so high that it can prevent a child from doing something mindbogglingly idiotic. What the high IQ will do will probably make the idiocy extremely creative.

At this point in time, I would not want to have children. I'm not yet independent myself, I don't have any means of income, and I don't think I could deal with the psychological stress at this time either...

But in the future, when my life is more stable, I would be honored to raise a family (only one or two kids though, otherwise you're just contributing to overpopulation and it's even more expensive)... I've always felt the need to be needed, and nothing in this world needs you more than a child does (even if the little brat doesn't appreciate it some times)...

I do want kids, but it's not a responsibility I would take lightly.

I would have only one or two at the most, because I'd want my kids to grow up with the love and attention they needed from me and to have good childhoods. I think parents who have lots of kids and are ill-equipped to look after them all are the worst kinds of stupid.

Also, I don't intend to have children any time soon; I plan to wait until I am in my early to mid-thirties at which point I think I will be mature enough to handle the responsibility.

just like with all other things that normal people do, I only like kids in theory. I like the "idea" of kids, just as I like the idea of a relationship, a steady job, an education etc etc but in practice, it's all too much bother :p

Yes I do, and I look forward to it very much

But first will come marriage

I thought it was the possibility of the child being on the spectrum that prompted a "no" response.

Let me give an example that just happened last night that exemplifies why i am unfit to parent.

I was having dinner at my brothers house (he has sons, 5 and 8 ) and the topic of an old friend of mine came up. Was friends with him from when i was 'round 5 or 6 till we moved from the area at age 8 or 9. My brother asked me about him, the whole 'you should look him up on facebook' shpeal. He said "i remember the huge pool they had, always going over there to swim" And I replied, jokingly "i remember always playing hopity hop on his dads lap late at night, but no pool" because i, for some reason, find a lot of humor in joking about being sexually harassed as a child. (I know there are people who have gone through it and it is no laughing matter, but sometimes people open up the jokes and i cant let them slip through) Anyways, the look I got was of utter disgust from my brother and sister-in-law. My inability to sensor myself is not conducive to good child parenting.

So maybe i'm not unfit, but I just would rather avoid having to explain to a social worker that my 9 year old son was only joking about going down on his teacher so she would give him an A (that job is best left to me as a parent to perform cunnilingus and fellatio on my kids teachers to get him the best grades possible). Then it would look even worse cause surely I would then offer to go down on the social worker in order to allow me to keep my son.
It would just end bad.

I look forward to when I have my own family...

...one or two kids would be enough.

I feel like the only guy my age who when I get financially secure and meet the right girl would love to have a big family. I don't know how many kids but more than two certainly. Having a family of my own and the means to support them mean me more to me than anything. I don't really know why.

Now, if not sooner.

I'm already step-mum to beautiful boys, but I want one (possibly two) of my own.

Absolutely not! !

There are many, many reasons why I do not want children but that is not one of them. In fact, an NT child may just be my worst nightmare. Especially if it was female!