Fantasy vs. functional relationships

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How do you figure? If the person discloses he doesn't want a relationship and is only interested in casual sex, and she is not interested in casual sex, then she won't hop into bed with a man. It's pretty much that simple. Women aren't hapless idiots or small children. They are equals with an equal right to make their own choices.

I think therange is saying that if you're with a woman, you only want casual sex, she doesn't, then you shouldnt be with said woman...

I think to better word therange. If you're with a woman and you get into her pants by telling her you want a relationship just as much as she does, then you shouldn't be with said woman.


My only problem with this experience is not a lot women or guys ask eachother if they just want casual sex or a relationship. I was often confused in where I stood in the last relationship I had which was with a guy who said he loved me while screwing with his ex behind my back.

It seems odd to say the earlier experiences weren't necessary, yet go right on to say that even had you two met at an earlier age, it wouldn't have amounted to anything but an experiment. It seems that for many of us those earlier experiences are necessary in order to even have a basis with which to compare anything else. They may not be all there is to sex or relationships but they are a part of the experience. Some people even around my age (24) are at a stage where they have serious relationships or are thinking of getting married, but most of those have had at least one short-term boyfriend or girlfriend before that.

Oh and why do you always assume that a relationship that is not stable and boring has nothing worthwhile about it except sex?