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Category: Socializing

(Made up a new category, I guess.)

While doing some research for a friend (honest!) I found the website below. This website is a clearinghouse for non-alcoholic meet-ups: users can search it by geographic location. There are groups dedicated to all different kinds of interests...including groups for Aspies and/or people with social anxiety. Anyway, I thought it might be a good way to figure out how to meet people with similar interests in a non-club/bar setting.

http://nondrinker.meetup.com/

Category: Communication, Body Language, Eye Contact, Relationship Health

This is a very interesting article on the perils of failing to realize when someone is sharing intimate information too soon in a relationship, and why that's a problem. Also provides valuable information on recognizing and reading micro-expressions.

http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/personal ... l?hpt=Sbin

Category: Flirting, Socializing, Do's & Don'ts (mostly for men, but works for women too)
http://www.cracked.com/article_18440_6-things-men-do-to-get-laid-that-science-says-turn-women-off.html
"6 Things Men Do To Get Laid That Science Says Turn Women Off"

Ultimately, this is a humor article, and doesn't go into any detail, but it does affirm a few 'truisms' and dating/flirting/whatever tendencies. Satire always contains some truth. Some of it is pragmatic. Overly? Perhaps, and that's your call. But give it consideration, don't write it all off immediately if it jives wrong. Personally, I have to hesitantly agree with just about all of it, even if it does not hit the details, or put much weight behind why it works this way.

http://www.cracked.com/blog/crackeds-re ... o-like-you

The advice underneath the humor is quite good.

http://www.becomeaplayer.com/

Covers pretty much all of the topics

^ That site seems more like an advertisement - Not much data available.

Category: Nice Guys (again), and What Women Want
http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/04/14/mr.nice.guy.backlash/index.html?hpt=Mid

Since it's CNN, it's not very detailed, it gives pop generalizations, and isn't terribly useful on it's own. However, it lends credence to the idea that women generally do not want guys that fit the "Nice Guy" archetype. The article sort of fails to make a distinction between what women tend to usually want versus a jerk, however, and that's unfortunate. But Fortunately, that topic and the distinction gets covered at length on this forum!


Category: Being A Better Man
http://artofmanliness.com/

This site is great! Found it via the above CNN article. It's a little old-fashioned, in terms of style and presentation of the ideas, but the substance is modern, and excellent. The over-all theme seems to be that men can benefit from a selectively more 'retro' approach to manhood, but not at the expense to womens' equality, and respect. All-in-all, it it's chock full of broadly varying information to help men be better, more likable, more successful, happier people, while improving the world around them, as well as benefiting the lives of others around them. It emphasizes strength, independence, respect, and the confidence that follows from such behaviors & mindsets.
Solid gold. The only draw-back is that there's so much to read!

One article within the above site that I found very interesting was this:
Category: Building Maturity and Independence
Modern Maturity: Create More, Consume Less

It's a bit vague and philosophical, as opposed to specific and practical, however the perspective on defining and achieving real maturity is fascinating. I think it's particularly relevant nowadays, as classical maturity seems to be coming progressively later and later in life.

Category: Flirting, Avoiding Catastrophe, Feminist Perspective.
http://kateharding.net/ - Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced

This was a post on a blog that prompted an epic response from readers. A lot of militancy from 'both sides of the aisle,' so-to-speak. Fairly controversial, so take it how you will. It's a glimpse into one potential perspective of women when they are approached by strangers. Whether or not you agree with the ideas in the post, it's a worthwhile read, and provokes some thought.

.... Whew, been meaning to bump this thread, but I just haven't been coming up with any good sites lately. Don't be shy folks, post a good link if you know it. But please observe format.

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