Love, Sex and the Male Brain

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Ooo, interesting.

Both the testosterone-related accounts were good reads for me. I'm still pretty convinced that there's a generally substantial difference between the level of sexual desire men have and the level of sexual desire women have, despite the opposition I sometimes get on that topic, and that had me a bit more convinced than before. (Maybe some people think I'm implying that it's natural for men to commit rape, or something like that)

....Huh. Interesting point. It really does bring to question the similarities and differences in men & womens' sex drives.

However, magnitude and frequency aside, this certainly makes it clear that there's a big difference in how they work.

Thanks for the post, it must be AMAZING to be a man. You know, I think sometimes (ok a lot of the time) I am a man's brain trapped inside a woman's body, but I don't mind having a woman's body so no surgery for me

*shrugs* Sometimes I THINK i can think like a guy, because I sympathize with guys who get nagged and when the wimminz want them off the computer/away from the TV/etc. But most days I think I just think I think like a cat. :3

yeah, there's too many 'think' s there. XD

While we're talking about general male-mindedness anyway, I might as well bring this up.
During puberty and prime, a young man may experience that the world is made of cardboard. It's just that the musculature may develop in sudden leaps that make it difficult to get used to the current strength.
Holding anything fragile always comes with a risk of squeezing too hard, but it's worse when you're not sure about your own effect/effort rate.

I've broken plenty of tools and doorhandles (old house) a few years ago, and I caught myself clenching a gadget too hard as late as this morning.
Do the female have the same problem?

oh man, yes! I used to love breaking things for the hell of it. I grew very tall very quickly so I also had problems with bashing my head on things etc

Yes, I have wanted a girlfriend, yes, I have had crushes, but I've never found myself thinking about their body parts or having a desire for sex. It doesn't interest me. I don't know if I'm somehow hard-wired differently or what, but there it is.

*scratches* Having a crush, yet not remembering their body and face. Ok so it's possible for some people, I guess. The meaning of what a crush is continues to confuse me.

Back in the day when I was imbibing two gallons of testosterone a day, all that happened was that I sprouted hair all over my body and pumped with my left hand six times a day. I got through a lot of hankies in those testosterone-fuelled days.

@PLA, I personally didn't experience surges in strength that caused me to break things. In terms of puberty, I think my girlfriends and I struggled most with hormones/periods and breast development. It's actually a lot to deal with....getting all kinds of attention you're not used to getting, and dealing with a body that seems to change at will and overnight - several times.

The thing is that this is our entire existence. Since pre-puberty, those hormones have been affecting us tremendously. We don't think about it consciously. It's in the background. It's a shade of color over everything we see. It's a constant, subtle hum. It's the 'given' in any moment. We don't think about it, we hardly perceive it, no more than we perceive oxygen.

Some guys act out in a more visible way, accordingly... Certainly we can control our behavior, and we each decide our behavior differently.
Some guys have more or less of the stuff coursing through their veins. But on the average, variances aren't a big deal. We're all about the same.

So the difference might not be necessarily that you experience the impulse differently, but that you act upon it, or filter it, or redirect it, or interpret it differently.

Oh jeez puberty was HELL for me. I didn't understand why guys would all of sudden want to talk to me, and why I couldn't stop thinking about them no matter how hard i tried. I also did the female version of as David M calls it 'pumped with my left hand 6 times a day' not to mention the emotional rollercoaster. I went from being on a level playing field, only being sad/happy if something directly happened that made me so (e.g. hanging out with my friends = happy, my cat died= sad) to crying because...well...i felt sad for no reason at all :S Oh and girls at my school started acting wierd/bitchy all of a sudden...

Did you by any chance have that emotional thing going on as well, HopeGrows?

Oh I meant to reply to this earlier lol...
Although it'd vary from woman to woman and man to man, I agree with you, but I think it's not the level of sexual desire which is different, we just express it/experience it a bit diffrently. In my experience (well i've only been me so i wouldn't know how others feel), women are more cyclic, and sometimes we don't feel like it, then in a weeks time we will immensly. Men have more a fixed level and it's there all the time. It's the same as the emotional diffrence between men and women.

God, yes - puberty was a complete emotional roller coaster. To this day, when I realize I'm reacting to something emotionally, the first thing I do is look at the calendar.

My anxiety supresses my hormones I thnk. I seem to be getting more and more androgenous every year, I really need to get on top of it all so my hormones can go back to normal.