Turn-offs

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I'm not narrow minded. I am picky. Enormous difference.

My turn offs
1. eating with your mouth open - this is rage inducing for me.
2. smoking - females and smoking is a no go
3. lack of self confidence - it's one thing to know your limits, it's another to be negative about yourself
4. Lois Lane - I'm not super man, I can't save you. You have to save yourself
5. Possessive - I don't have many friends, please don't harass me about the few I do have.
Edit:
6. Don't be a weeaboo - japan isn't that cool.

and... that's all I can think of right now.

@Hale-Bopp
that list isn't too bad. but nowadays it might be hard to find a guy who doesn't like at least a little anime. You may wanna change that to "isn't a weeaboo" which I'm actually gonna add to me list right now

- Whininess
- Can't hold down a job or live on his own
- Different religion than me/no religion at all
- Alcoholic/drug addict
- Violent/abusive
- Has kids from a previous marriage/relationship

Smoking, definitely. If I see a woman smoking, I lose any interest and turn my attention to anything else. Don't they know what they're doing to their bodies? And to other people around them?

I guess you mean those freaks who live and breath Japanese animation ("anime" is just the term the Japanese use for any animation, regardless of the country of origin), thinking anything that is Japanese animation is the 8th wonder of the world and anything that isn't is a POS, and not people who just ocassionally will watch some (like for example Speed Racer, which I used to watch as a kid looong ago and have watched on re-runs in Cartoon Network out of nostalgia). I've been around such people when I used to do maintenance to the PCs of a company that edited a fanzine, and they are annoying like hell with that attitude, regardless of gender.


Those two rule out a LOT of people in my country. Unemployment/underemployment is still high and it's usual for 4 generations to live in the same home. I guess it's more of a cultural thing.

That also rules out a lot of people on these boards. Aspies have it tough I guess.

I only have one big turn-off: selfishness. It doesn't have to be anything significant, but if a woman can't think about anyone else's well-being at all, then I can't associate with her...

There are heaps of guys who don't do anime. I mean I tend to get along with geeks well (and more of them like anime than mainstream men), comic books, video games, cartoons, but obsession with anime and watching it in Japanese with subtitles is just such a turn off. If you like Japan that much pack up your life and move there.

Acting Japanese is fine... if you're Japanese.

Also, I don't know what a weeaboo is. It depends on the person too, some geeks are just really unattractive personality wise and others aren't.

The thing that consistently turns me off is when I realize that a girl I like is a social-addicted NT. Usually this is fairly obvious, like when a girl looks like she couldn't take her hands off her phone if it were on fire, but not always. Along the same lines, I don't like the Lois Lane types. I like females that are self-sufficient. After all, relationships are supposed to be external; an extension of yourself, not something you rely on like an organ.

Yeah I mean a Japanese animation fanboy. Doesn't watch normal cartoons. Doesn't watch Japanese animation in English. Is absoultely appalled and disgusted at the idea of not watching it in japanese. Pretty much dominates their bedroom with crap about it, is a know all about it if anyone asks questions, knows about every obscure one there is.

Yeah people can do what they want, I just find that particular trait grossly unattractive.

Last edited by hale_bopp on 15 Apr 2010, 9:44 pm, edited 1 time in total.

the term weeaboo was originally coined as a term for white people who are obsessed with japanese culture but I just use it for anyone who is obsessed much in the way you described with Japan. I'm not a japanophile but any anime I do watch I prefer to do so with subtitles because of the way I interpret language, I prefer literal translations... I do the same thing with spanish shows/games/etc.

nerd-haters.
Extremely loud noises.
people who restrict freedom in expression of the truth.
Insincerity.
Deceptiveness.

I wouldn't mind, even as a non-smoker.

+1

I'd apply pretty much that whole list of turnoffs to women (although don't know about the anime, I never watched one in my life and I guess I don't understand the issues at hand), and I'm not in a position looks wise to be quite so picky as halebopp. Certain things just do not work. You'll run into a lot less bad s**t in your life if you understand that.

Patience is a virtue?

BS. She's describing what most women want. She's describing a well-adjusted man. You guys should pay attention.

For me...

Doesn't like to travel/is lazy
Asexual, or low sex drive
Narrow-mindedness
Isn't affectionate/doesn't like being touched
Not goal-oriented
Doesn't want to start a family (although I admit to being undecided myself)

That's a lot of things. Someone once told me that when someone likes you (a potential boyfriend/girlfriend, a potential business partner or some other relationship prospect for whatever purpose) you have to do something really bad to ruin it, but if you're not liked, forget it because there's not much you can do.

Case in point:

Several items on your list may be ambiguous or overlapping, and may already be decided when you decide you like someone. For example, if you like a guy, then his behavior may seem dominant, confident, smooth and affectionate. If you don't like him, those same behaviors might be interpreted as arrogant, intense, narrow minded, too overtly sexual, or "lapdog" like. Another guy who isn't too arrogant or too bitchy might seem like a pushover if you don't like him. Someone with broad-minded sexual interests might seem crude if you don't like him, and someone else with conventional sexual interests might seem narrow-minded if you don't like him. Someone who tries to be broad minded and is willing to temporarily suspend his disbelief in a patently false idea being presented to him, might seem like a pushover. These are just some of the possible permutations of things in your list, which, when questioned by your friends or even the guy himself, you may use as plausibly well-reasoned causes for rejecting someone, when at the end of the day, it really boils down to the fact that you just don't like him. It sounds like you've been categorizing a lot of guys as having met your difficult criteria because you liked them.

If you paint too narrow a target, many guys may just ignore you. I tend to ignore women who don't seem to have a behavioral target I can meet, no matter how good-looking they are. It's not that I'm turned off, but rather, they just don't appear on my radar screen as having potential for anything beyond "window shopping".