"Euthanizing" my sexual self

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Sound
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02 May 2010, 9:19 pm

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That's bollocks. He's not doing anything 'wrong', just exploring an option. Not everyone wants to turn themselves into a sexathon.

Perhaps. But clearly he's unhappy, so the status-quo isn't quite right, now is it?

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02 May 2010, 9:30 pm

Sound wrote:

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That's bollocks. He's not doing anything 'wrong', just exploring an option. Not everyone wants to turn themselves into a sexathon.

Perhaps. But clearly he's unhappy, so the status-quo isn't quite right, now is it?

What makes you think I'm unhappy? Please don't conflate pessimism with unhappiness.

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02 May 2010, 9:33 pm

It's not exactly hard to discern, you're easily agitated, defensive and tend to state over and over how dreary your viewpoint is.

You can say you're happy all you like, no one's buying it.

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02 May 2010, 9:40 pm

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It's not exactly hard to discern, you're easily agitated, defensive and tend to state over and over how dreary your viewpoint is.

You can say you're happy all you like, no one's buying it.

Boy, are you reading way too much into my messages. I like a good fight now and then and challenging people's viewpoints, in order to provoke them into thinking for themselves. Overstatement is part of the game.

As for happiness: no one's completely happy all the time. Are you? Don't think so. But generally I'd say my life is worth living, and I'd choose this one again over a "happier" yet shallower one.

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02 May 2010, 11:45 pm

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But generally I'd say my life is worth living, and I'd choose this one again over a "happier" yet shallower one.

Of course you would. People cling to the familiar. Your happier, shallower self would probably insist on the reverse.

It would be one thing if you trumpeted the virtues of finding alternative release/things to do, but your distinctly pessimistic tone and focus on the "have-nots" instead of the "haves" seems to have people reacting to what they might consider your "symptoms" of loneliness.

I've never been strong enough to try and bury my urges, but in that, I can't see the value in denying oneself something that comes so naturally.

A humorous quote me and a sibling share is this: "I can't wait till my **** falls off so I can actually concentrate on getting something done." It probably doesn't add to the discussion, but the line of thinking tickles me in regard to the topic at hand.

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03 May 2010, 5:28 am

Y'all must be referring to some other thread I don't read, because all I've seen from dddhgg here is a willingness to attempt something a bit unusual and a bit challenging in order to bring himself some peace. Having an active sex life is not necessarily a defense against unhappiness or loneliness.

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03 May 2010, 6:49 am

I dont think you can effectively suppress the need for sexual stimulation. In fact research seems to indicate that it might be bad for your health.

Which is about the opposite of what they told kids decades ago when masturbation was still an act ot the devil.

I wonder how many kids have ended up frustrated or even dysfunctional because of that.

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03 May 2010, 8:25 am

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Sides, guys masturbating is kind of hot.

LOL seriously? It doesn't seem especially glamorous from my perspective.... :lol:

Haha, yep! Every time I like a guy, thinking about him doing that gets me hot and bothered.

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03 May 2010, 8:49 am

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They seem to mean my thread "To all you chronically lonely etc.". Amazing to see how one bit of caustic writing earns you so many enemies in this place. I never would've imagined that some of us on WP are so uptight.

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03 May 2010, 9:19 am

Spazzergasm wrote:

Sound wrote:

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Sides, guys masturbating is kind of hot.

LOL seriously? It doesn't seem especially glamorous from my perspective.... :lol:

Haha, yep! Every time I like a guy, thinking about him doing that gets me hot and bothered.

QFT!

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03 May 2010, 9:39 am

To the OP.

This thread is very timely for me as I have recently come to the same conclusion and have begun the process myself.

I'm still pretty new to the whole thing, but the thing that surprises me the most is how pervasive sexuality is in my consciousness - it's been very difficult to suppress unless I make a constant, conscious effort - otherwise I "forget" that I am now celibate (mentally and physicially).

I wish I had some good advice, but at this point I'm not sure if this is even a viable solution, possible, or even desirable - only time will tell.

Good luck, and please continue to share your experience...

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03 May 2010, 9:46 am

Well, with as many supporting responses, then the idea must have merit.

I'll be curious to see if you guys have good progress on this.

Good luck.

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03 May 2010, 10:13 am

Sound wrote:

Well, with as many supporting responses, then the idea must have merit.

I'll be curious to see if you guys have good progress on this.

Good luck.

In my view, the jury is out on whether or not whether this idea has "merit", but I think it's definitely worth a thorough trial on an experimental basis.

I am interested in finding out if this is a viable "nuclear option" if you find that you are too Aspie to establish stable (or even unstable) romantic relationships - even if it turns out to be unworkable that is valuable knowledge too...

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03 May 2010, 10:27 am

^ Truth.

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03 May 2010, 12:42 pm

Sedaka wrote:

Spazzergasm wrote:

Sound wrote:

Spazzergasm wrote:

Sides, guys masturbating is kind of hot.

LOL seriously? It doesn't seem especially glamorous from my perspective.... :lol:

Haha, yep! Every time I like a guy, thinking about him doing that gets me hot and bothered.

QFT!

Seriously....guys don't know this? Smoking hot.

(Oh, also agree with @Spazzer that liking the guy/being attracted to him is key to the hotness.)

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03 May 2010, 1:04 pm

HopeGrows wrote:

Sedaka wrote:

Spazzergasm wrote:

Sound wrote:

Spazzergasm wrote:

Sides, guys masturbating is kind of hot.

LOL seriously? It doesn't seem especially glamorous from my perspective.... :lol:

Haha, yep! Every time I like a guy, thinking about him doing that gets me hot and bothered.

QFT!

Seriously....guys don't know this? Smoking hot.

(Oh, also agree with @Spazzer that liking the guy/being attracted to him is key to the hotness.)

I know! Like, okay, the ones on the internet who surprise you on chat sites= unsexy. Picturing that lolito across from me in health i've been fancying for the past month...mmmmmm!

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