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15 Aug 2010, 9:32 pm

Don't bother dating in High School. Its purely a social game at that age. Its best to honestly wait until you get a good job and become attractive to women as an adult without really having to compete in close quarters with lots of other NTs. For HighSchool girls, dating at that age is only kind of social game/social-advancement kind of thing. They only date higher on the totem pole.



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16 Aug 2010, 1:46 am

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If you haven't already, grow your hair out. Nice hair can be a turn on to girls.


Thats what gives me my raw sex appeal



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16 Aug 2010, 8:20 am

Wanting a girlfriend just because you want sex is sad.
If you're a teenager, you're too young to be having sex anyway.

Lastly, you can't very well bemoan how girls treat you like you're "strange" or "weird" when you, yourself are only looking for NT"s.

That's quite hypocritical.


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16 Aug 2010, 8:21 am

Hanotaux wrote:
Girls won't date guys who may compromise their popularity. Girls like guys who will either enhance their social status, buy them things, or both.


Yes because all girls are popular,
and all girls are golddiggers.
That coming from someone who thinks vaginas are "disgusting",
I think you have a bad case of deluded misogyny going on.


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16 Aug 2010, 11:45 pm

trojan51 wrote:
Hanotaux wrote:
Girls won't date guys who may compromise their popularity. Girls like guys who will either enhance their social status, buy them things, or both.


you nailed it! that is most likely the reason i have never had a girlfriend either

Wrong :roll:



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26 Sep 2010, 4:37 am

i want 1 but cant seem to no what to do. could some1 help me



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26 Sep 2010, 9:30 am

Creepy old bald men can get a girlfriend so you can too.



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26 Sep 2010, 9:58 am

trojan51 wrote:
Hanotaux wrote:
Girls won't date guys who may compromise their popularity. Girls like guys who will either 1. enhance their social status, 2. buy them things, or both.


you nailed it! that is most likely the reason i have never had a girlfriend either


No I think the reason you both don't have a GF is because you've got no damn clue what women want.

1) the social status thing only matters for teenage girls for the most part, some superficial women are like that but not most
2) I don't know where you pulled that out of, the toilet maybe but its not true.



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26 Sep 2010, 10:17 am

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No I think the reason you both don't have a GF is because you've got no damn clue what women want.


What do women want?



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26 Sep 2010, 10:19 am

EnglishInvader wrote:
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No I think the reason you both don't have a GF is because you've got no damn clue what women want.


What do women want?


The majority of well adjusted women don't like a man because he buys them things thats for sure.



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26 Sep 2010, 12:56 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
1) the social status thing only matters for teenage girls for the most part, some superficial women are like that but not most


We don't know how old he is. He probably is a teenager.



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26 Sep 2010, 1:05 pm

Jono wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
1) the social status thing only matters for teenage girls for the most part, some superficial women are like that but not most


We don't know how old he is. He probably is a teenager.


One of the people I quoted has an age listed as in his mid twenties. (The one who farted out that stupid idea) The other is 18. And as far as i'm concerned, no 18 year olds I know like people because they buy them things.



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26 Sep 2010, 1:12 pm

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Hi, I am very worried, because I can't get a girlfriend.

I so badly want an (NT) girlfriend...

All the guys in my class has had a girlfriend and, uhm, dot dot dot, but I'm as much a virgin like a Catholic pastor :roll:

All the girls in my class think i'm disgusting and behaving strange, but I get the best grades in my class and is the best in my class at using computers, and blahblah...

Does anyone have some tips :?:


Why an NT girlfriend specifically?

Anyways, as has been stated, your peers will be exaggerating their sexual activities. That's what I do. Well, I didn't, someone spread a rumour about me having sex around the school to try and annoy me, but it backfired and made me popular so I just went with it :lol:

But, I digress.

My advice is to be yourself and not jeopardise your grades by trying to act cool, that's the most important thing. I know it's a cliche, but you'll find someone right for you eventually.

Bethie wrote:
If you're a teenager, you're too young to be having sex anyway.


Depends how old the teenager is.



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26 Sep 2010, 2:34 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
Jono wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
1) the social status thing only matters for teenage girls for the most part, some superficial women are like that but not most


We don't know how old he is. He probably is a teenager.


One of the people I quoted has an age listed as in his mid twenties. (The one who farted out that stupid idea) The other is 18. And as far as i'm concerned, no 18 year olds I know like people because they buy them things.

Many guys with as say they can relate better to younger people because they have similar interests and ideas so maybe thats whats happening here.


As for girls dont dating guys that are less popular than them I dont think thats true. The closest I have been to a long term relationship was about 5 years ago.
I was the odd kid in the class when we started dating, three years afterwards we broke up because someone in the class thought I could do so much better in the social lader and started telling me where to change, I was stupid enough to follow this peson´s advice and we broke up because the changes that I had done. We tried to go out again a few months after I saw how stupid I had been and went back to "normal" but it didnt work out.


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27 Sep 2010, 4:58 am

Well you can do what I'm doing, study abroad and see if another culture appreciates you. The saddest most heartbreaking thing in my life has by far been being single all my life. At first I was confused why, then I was angry when I found out that it was because I'm too much of a "nice guy". And it was just one excuse after another. Now I'm tired and I've given up on American women to say the least. I'm not saying that I expect women to be a hundred times better some place else, but leaving the country for a while may help clear your head and give you a feeling of a fresh start. At least for me, I've heard European women make the first move too. If you don't like it, you'll be coming back in a couple of months.



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27 Sep 2010, 5:22 am

countzarroff wrote:
Well you can do what I'm doing, study abroad and see if another culture appreciates you. The saddest most heartbreaking thing in my life has by far been being single all my life. At first I was confused why, then I was angry when I found out that it was because I'm too much of a "nice guy". And it was just one excuse after another. Now I'm tired and I've given up on American women to say the least. I'm not saying that I expect women to be a hundred times better some place else, but leaving the country for a while may help clear your head and give you a feeling of a fresh start. At least for me, I've heard European women make the first move too. If you don't like it, you'll be coming back in a couple of months.

Good call, Poland and Hungary in particular look fantastic. Also just travelling and meeting people esp other travellers is a good thing. The other catch-22 thing that always got me is that when your looking for women you exude some sort desperation that women can sense. When you give up on that as your 'goal' and just give life a go paradoxically that's when things happen, least thats how its always been for me.
Good luck.
Oh and on those bus tours (Kontiki and so-on) they have around Europe for young people, well certainly all the ones my friends (both male and female) have been on they have about 2-1 Females to guys for reasons that escape me :)