People with Aspergers: How do you get a girlfriend?

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I will share a bit of experience based on my one "successful" relationship, which occurred because I was unintentionally playing with the woman's head (as opposed to being honest to her, which is something I had done in all other attempts at a relationship).

You will want to constantly make her feel unsafe (but not likely to be hurt in any way), while making her see you as a source of safety. Even in conversation, you should try to make her unsure of, but interested in, what your feelings towards her might be. When she asks you a direct question, give an interesting but indirect answer, and conclude the conversation abruptly (thus depriving her of safety without exposing her to a threat) if she keeps pushing.

Also, women like powerful men. For instance, a woman who tries to rile you up and scream at you for some random reason will secretly enjoy it when you ignore her or laugh at her in response; indeed, she will think you a better man for it.

These are just examples of things you could do to improve your chances. I mention them only because they have been vetted by both personal experience and what I have read in the PUA / MGTOW community.

I met my wife and partner before that online and we're good friends first and then it went from there

I just turn on the charm.

I won't criticize your writing style but I do think you're worrying too much about this. I used to feel the same way about talking to girls until I realized that 1) A lot of the girls that did approach me I wanted nothing to do with 2) Girls are A LOT easier than guys think. You're probably sending out creep signals to these women, you need to learn to chill out a bit. Write now I'm talking to this chick I met online. I don't actually plan on dating this girl, I do hope to have sex however. I'm using online dating to help me when I'm in person with girls. I learn what creeps them out and what draws them in. Try saying something completely weird about their appearance and just see what happens. Sometimes girls will be puzzled by this but drawn to it as well. Most importantly play it cool. Don't act like you're super desperate for their attention. I used to be like this and got rejected soooooooo many times. If a girl blows you off no big deal, move on to someone else, don't take it personally. It's still rough for me but you're only 20. A lot of people at that age haven't had sex yet and some that have regret it. It seems like you're more interested in the sex part than the girl part btw.

How do aspies get women. Dunno. All I can say is I don't think about it and it seems to happen naturally over time, that I start dating, get a girlfriend, have a random encounter etc. But when I do think about it, I worry, and things go wrong! in other words, nothing happens then and I don't "get the girl", or any girl for that matter.

So from my experiences all I can say is don't worry about it. Do and say as you feel, and if the girl likes you she will gel with you over time. Of course do and say what you feel within the constraints that you aren't harming anyone !

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Dang you're right! Who bumped it?

HA

I was about to answer too

I noticed a lot of negativity and hate towards women in a significant portion of these posts. Was that normal at that time?

Confidence is key, Girls like someone with a high esteem.

also being clean and organized helps.

girls like stable, clean, and boisterous men.