Too Clingy?

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This thread is a hopeful and pleasant surprise in some regards. My AS ex always said I was too clingy because I like to hug or kiss or cuddle. Not all the time, mind you, the back pain gets to be too much!

I came here to say the same thing. I was running errands yesterday when it occurred to me the reason I don't enjoy relationships is because I'm not always comfortable with sharing my life and intimacy. I don't mean to put words in your mouth if that's not what you're saying, but I need alone too ALOT.

My gf can be quite 'clingy' but I don't mind cos I think it makes her hot!! !!

She kinda reminds me of Amy Rose which is one of my fave video game babes!! !

She's always trying her best to please me, and as it happens she knows that whatever she does for me will not go unappreciated.

It seems that I just like to have her run around tending to my every need!?!

Joking aside however we I always make sure that if she wants something from me she'll get it, and so it's all fair and equal...

We do however still respect that we still must have space and time for ourselves however.

Goodbye Till Next Time.

I'm quite the opposite of clingy... I need my space to stay sane.

I was called the opposite of clingy.

I have never had a chance to be clingy (or called as such).

I have never been called clingy, but I do recognise that I have been too into a woman that I like. I have backed off and I have let certain people know the whole situation. But its the condition doing this kind of behaviour, its not actually my fault that I like this woman. Because a lot of people have been horrible to me in my life and she's been really nice, well, its obvious that I am going to like her alot.

i'm not really sure if i am or not, my GF hasn't really said anything on the subject as of yet, and neither hgas anyone else

Yeah, my ex told me I was too clingy...and too nice. =/

I was just grateful to have someone who (I mistakenly thought) cared about me. Maybe I went too far in showing it. Whatever,

She said you were too nice? Was she some sort of masochist?

I think it all depends on the person you're with also.
I've heard the following from all different people:

"You're "fun" that you act like that when you haven't had a sip of alcohol." (If I am relaxed, I don't need alcohol to be silly and fun)
"You're the most antisocial person I've ever met" - Some guy from WP who added me to MSN and was annoyed when I didn't chat, all he would ever do is ask me to go on webcam
"Don't be clingy, its unattrative" From cuddling the guy I was into too much
"Learn compassion" - from the first guy I was with who I thought was clingy and his behaviour annoying

It all depends on who you're around and how you're feeling.

I've been called both clingy and whatever the opposite is. When I was with my "first" I was a lot more clingy and well I got cheated on and ceased to give a s**t. When I was with Cate if she ever complained about how I am I'd be like "if you don't like it, go f**k somebody else". I just gave up on holding onto things, I more or less welcome an early end to all doomed relationships.

My ex-girlfriend before my last ex was clingy. That was one of things I loved the most with her, and that I miss. I would've been fine with that she had been even clingier. She was kind of crazy, also, though, and eventually ended up being unfaithful to me out of nowhere, due to this fact, so I broke up with her. My recent ex ended up being unfaithful, as well, but due to being fooled by her ex-boyfriend. No excuse, though, so I broke up with her, as well. She was never clingy at all, and that bothered me - it made me feel that she didn't love me, which she pretty much admitted she never had done, and she kind of proved it with her unfaithfulness, anyway.

Clingy is great. Why wouldn't a guy like clingy? I don't know about the other way around but as a guy, I do expect my future-found true love to be clingy...

I think it's more to do with the guy's personal security level tbh. The more insecure guys require clingy, the overly secure ones fin it annoying and suffocating. Same with women.

I was more insecure with the recent guy I was with, and was clingier than the first guy, who I wasn't clingy with at all.

If you think about the literal meaning of clingy "Holding on with dear life" Maybe some people enjoy the fact their spouse seems/acts scared to lose them. It helps them feel more secure. Others find it unnessicary and suffocating.

Well, I wouldn't want her to think that she would be losing me... I'd like her to feel secure with me, but still be clingy - a girl who obsesses about you is terribly cute. Guys who find clinginess of that sort annoying don't deserve to be with anyone.

Me wanting a clingy, obsessive girlfriend has nothing to do with me feeling insecure with myself. In fact, one would have a hard time finding someone more secure with theirself than I am; I see myself as separate from the human species, as I behave and think so enormously differently, and my view always holds the greatest value. Not that that means that I am an a**hole or anything - I can be very good at listening to and talking with people, and generally treat people in a very friendly manner. Of course, if they just piss me off slightly, I can start conjuring up all sorts of dark forms of revenge.

Overly secure guys.... I think you're really talking about the guys who have a tendency to be the player guys that are unfaithful to their girlfriends and dump them at random. Like the guys who took my girlfriends from me for some brief fun, both times. Fuc.k I hate such guys - they should be cleansed from society. I'm so very tired of how humanity works... it's just beyond repulsive.

It must be your age then, because as you get older the desire for a clingy obsessive partner wanes. People grow up. Men don't want a child, they want a woman who they are an equal too, not something who clings to them. And no, secure guys don't behave like that. Those ones are terribly insecure.

You are either quite young or have the mentality of a boy regardless of age.