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I am 6', 225 lbs. if anyone's curious.

dammit chronos... im closest to your "possibly" selection. now I'll never know...

know what? :S

I dont think that you should ever loose or gain weight because your significant other wants you to or 'likes you better that way'.

You should loose or gain weight because YOU want to, its your body. I can understand that a partner wants you to loose weight because obesity is unhealthy just like anorexia and etcetera, but its YOUR body. YOU have to live with it. It is YOUR LIFE.

I've always told my boyfriends, if you don't like the way that i _look_, then go ahead and leave me. If you think i live my life unhealthy, then go ahead and leave me.
Don't you understand that I am just or even more concerned about my weight or my health? its MY body.


If you want to do sports again and loose weight by all means DO SO. She'll learn to live with it and really, its her problem. She's making her problem your problem now and even though you are together and you love eachother very much, wanting to loose weight is not one of those things you should 'bother' eachother with. Save the selfless sacrifice for the day something really awful happens.

Live your life, dont let her tell you what to do with your body, dont tell her what she has to do with her body. Just let it be.
And if she is a feeder and/or a pro-ana push her towards counselling. Coz it's not healthy.


As for your question,
I like men who live a healthy life and who look healthy, both mentally and physically.
My current bf has a bmi of 23, he's not very muscular but that's cool with me. I'm a 23 myself aswell so we match

I agree with this, as long as you're not going to an extreme (for example, she likes chubby guys, and you become a body builder). This issue seems to be important to you, so I would recommend going back to rowing. If it turns out that she's completely unattracted to you when you've lost weight, but still loves you, you always have the option of gaining weight again (if you so desire).

As for my own preferences, I can be attracted to many body types, from skinny to rather chubby. If I were to pick a favorite type, I'd probably say fit but not very muscled. I tend to find myself more often attracted to slightly chubby men, though, but I think that may have more to do with personality than body type (geeks are less likely to be working out much).

You should do what makes you happy. Besides, if she keeps you a lot heavier than is healthy you'll be setting yourself up for health problems later on.

I like a range of figures on men. Though I am probably most fond of a healthy, fit one.

I don't really have a set body type I like in a guy; however I am usually not attracted to super skinny, super huge muscles or overweight to the point that it is unhealthy. I tend to go more toward an "average" body, a little on the heavy side or slighlty toned. Basically, it doesn't matter to me. It varies from person to person. I do like a guy to take care of himself, be physically active and have a healthy lifestyle, but I don't have this set mould that I need a guy to fit in order to be attracted to them.

One thing I can tell you with 100% honesty is that confidence is sexy. If you are overweight, underweight or whatever, having the right attitude and a good self image will make the physical stuff not matter. As many others have said, you should look that way you want to look, not the way you think someone else wants you to look. As long as you are personnal satisfied with your weight, your confidence with radiate. I'm sure your girlfiend won't care what size you are. Just be sure that you are happy with yourself.

I couldn't care less about looks.

Though I do tend to like fatter men more,
I think because I associate it with an even indifference to conforming to societal rules of what's attractive.
I like long hair for the same reason.

Sounds to me like you've answered your own question.

I love an athletic man...

Well, six packs scare me. I read a horror story once when a guy had a six pack and it burst open and it was really spider egg sacks... But other than that I really think it's the guy's choice. Why? Because I've dated guys who have tried to tell me exactly how to dress, do my makeup, whatever. It's annoying and I really just want to look like me.

Example: I don't want him choosing how I style my hair. It's mine. I want it as long as possible. If he wants a girl with a pixie cut he can find someone else.

I'd say that you should look whatever way makes you feel comfortable and feel good about yourself.