04 Dec 2010, 2:34 pm
emlion wrote:
Luckily, it just shows your good taste. 
And yours.
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05 Dec 2010, 12:13 am
05 Dec 2010, 1:29 am
Mindslave wrote:
Hey, just remember, SOMEONE, SOMEWHERE, has written these rules down. You just have to find the piece of paper.
I don't know about "unwritten" or "secret" but this is what Mum told me growing up:
"Be picky"
"Never have someone that abuses you"
"never go off alone with strange/dodgy men"
And although this one was never said.. my Mum being an NT.. she wants me to date someone "handsome" and "normal".
Good thing parents can't pick their kids loves and partners - its really not upto her if my partner meets her look and personality standard. I feel immense pressure from her though to "not dissappoint" although she says she wants me to be happy.
She never said that to me, but I can read her face and tone. Also things in unrelated conversations like "Surely you don't want someone who does that? Don't you want someone normal?" and "I liked (name here) because he was normal"
Maybe i'm being too harsh she has been a great parent to me but I don't like being told what I should want. Yes, i've voiced this opinion.
05 Dec 2010, 4:27 am
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05 Dec 2010, 5:53 am
The Ferengi unwritten Rule of Acquisition is 
"When no appropriate rule applies, make one up"
I wouldn't be surprised if lots of people fallow that one with dating
05 Dec 2010, 6:52 am
05 Dec 2010, 10:53 am
Surely, a mothers advice would be outdated in her daughters time, the world moves on and changes.
Ya can't give 1950's advice in a 21st Century world! 
05 Dec 2010, 11:19 am
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05 Dec 2010, 3:40 pm
Craig28 wrote:
Surely, a mothers advice would be outdated in her daughters time, the world moves on and changes.
Ya can't give 1950's advice in a 21st Century world!
Ya can't give 1950's advice in a 21st Century world!
The world moves on but some things that young women need to know about men are timeless-such as the protective advice about how to avoid abusive or user men. That's the same whether it's 1910 or 2010. And the 1950's were 60 years ago. Some of the advice unique to that time is outdated (such as "never call a boy, he should always call you") and some of it is timeless (how to avoid an abuser). But in any case, the women who actually have 1950's advice to give are quite elderly now and their daughters grew up long ago and are giving advice to their own daughters. If today's mothers and I am one) are giving dated advice, it's dated from the 70's and 80's. I can hardly give my daughter tips on texting etiquette because that didn't exist when I was dating. But the timeless advice of how not to be taken advantage of hasn't changed since my great grandmother was handing it out to my grandmother.
05 Dec 2010, 4:22 pm
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05 Dec 2010, 4:31 pm
Janissy wrote:
Craig28 wrote:
TheWeirdPig wrote:
I don't think my mother wants me to go for anyone.
My mother is the same. Whenever I point out that a woman is good looking or things like that, she will say no or she's ugly. She's gone the right way to not being able to meet any possible girlfriend in the future.
You and your mother don't have the same opinion, that's all. This doesn't matter. She doesn't have any actual power over who you may ask out.
It does matter, the whole 'bringing tha gal home to meet the family' is very important. The only woman my family as met and really like is a married woman!
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