Would You Date This Man? (Either Sex)

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I actually only smoke weed but hope to give it up soon. Does that count in the smoking section?

Yeah, for me the smoking and drugs would be an instant no no. But that's just me...

Also, something else I noticed especially towards the beginning of your bio thing is that there seemed to be a lot of fence sitting; like, I don't do this like I used to, but I still do this sometimes. Or, I don't know the names of lots of movies, but I like movies.

It's hard to explain what I mean here, but it's like you're saying a lot, but you're not saying anything about what makes you you, what makes you unique. If I were you, rather than making vague fence sitting type statements, I'd talk about the things you actively do like (not half like) or even some things you actively don't like. Talk some more even about your personality - your quirks, things that make you you.

Use strong words, be clear and decisive. These are attractive traits in a person.

I hope you can understand what I'm getting at here, because it's difficult to explain in words.

No, but only because I don't want to date anyone who is into watching sports enough to mention it on a profile (and I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that--I just don't want to have to watch it or hear all about it myself). If not for that one thing, I'd have answered yes.

I think sunshower means to use more definitive statements like "This is who I am now" instead of saying "Well, I was like this, but now I'm like this" She will find out who you used to be when you message her back and forth, or more accurately, when you meet up with her. This is just like a job application, in that people are sifting through profile to profile, looking for someone that stands out. So what stands out to you when you read a girl's profile? Or what stands out to you when you read a man's profile? Too long don't read is very important, because attention spans are one click away.

What I was trying to say was that I enjoy doing these things sometimes but necessarily on a regular basis. How would that be better put? I suppose for going out I could say I've grown out of it mostly? I don't want someone who doesn't like to do these things as I do want to. I liked watching films when I was with my only past girlfriend but don't much alone (I have no cinema/DVD friends) so I can't hold a decent conversation about the subject as I've not seen alot of what often comes up.

No.

But then, I have very specific requirements.

Apparently, "We Got Issues".

Same.

How big an issue do you think the sports viewing (which in reality only involves watching my football team when I'm not working) would be for women in general? I've missed watching games in the past for my ex so it's not always essential for me when it's not a big game. Should I change the way I wrote it?

Be you Mark. Don't let two americain aspie spazz's dictate your personality.

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I'm being sarcastic. It's the trait of a true englishman

I can insult you with a five minute head start if you like?

But I posted to get feedback, I'm getting nowhere as it is and I struggled greatly with my profile so wouldn't be suprised if I didn't do too well.

The sports thing was just an offhand comment- most people have things like that beyond the basics that they're interested in or not.

Your profile seems very well-written to me. (As a fellow OKCupid user, believe me when I say that's quite rare.)

No options for you IRL Mark?

I voted no because I'm picky and wouldn't be compatible with athiests. I also live on the other side of the world.

You look like a friendly guy though.

The process is failing at the translation stage. If its YOU who you are now that is the problem then whatever you put on that site ain't gonna mean jack basically. But I doubt thats what is getting in the way.

If you watch sports, you watch sports If you are going to let people dictate to you what you can and can't do then you are going to seriously make yourself into a very unhappy person in a relationship were you are moulded and battered into someone elses image of what you should be.

Basically, in short, assert yourself and your identity. Makes things 10,000 times easier.