Dating Preferences versus Options

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I think I must be too. But it would be nice to go back for a second round of it.

The article is built on the false premise that college men don't marry hot working class women because they don't have opportunities to mingle with them socially. But is that true? For men who never hold a part time job during college because they come from such a wealthy family, it is. But that leaves all the rest of the college men who need a part time job during college. It is at this time that they mingle with working class women- women they didn't go to highschool with (because they went to a middle class school) and women they won't be around after they get that white collar job. But while they are waiting tables or working in convenience stores after class, they are in social contact with these women. They date them. They have sex with them. But they rarely marry them.


There is a class divide that the author doesn't acknowledge. (Just like he doesn't acknowledge that pretty girls get degrees too.) College educated men really don't want to marry a hot waitress. They want to have sex with her, yes. But that's not the same thing. They get social benefits from marrying their classmate (who incidentally is no less likely to be hot). She will bring in an income to the couple that is far greater than the waitress, raising their standard of living, and when they have kids, she can be counted on to raise them in the same middle class way he is comfortable with. People stay in their SES comfort zone because it's where they are comfortable.

If college educated men really wanted to marry waitresses, they could. I am sure there are plenty of working class women with Cinderella fantasies of marrying a doctor or lawyer that they meet while working the same minimum wage job as he slogs his way through school. Waving that Cinderella flag at these women has probably gotten a lot of college men laid who had absolutely no intention of letting a Hooters waitress bear and raise his future kids. But marry them? They can but they don't. Because they don't want to. They want sex with the waitress while former college classmate wife plays math games with their son to Einsteinify him.

Arnold Schwarzenegger (cited in the article) is no different. He didn't want to marry a maid. He just wanted to have sex with one, while marrying a woman positioned to help his political career.

Some guy in the comment section said the same as this post (more to the point): "Sure I'll bang a dim cutie, maybe even for several months. But I won't wife a junior college flunkie."

Really?

Yes, really, maybe not in your case, but the typical regular girl usually has more options (but her preferences are usually more strict) to select from than the typical regular guy.

It's natural.

I wouldnt say so. I have met a lot of typical regular females who struggled with dating. Happy endings are not guaranteed for anyone.

The availability of options doesn't guarantee that there won't be any struggle with dating.

Janissy, this is true. most people marry other people of similar socioeconomic and educational background. there is more to marriage than sex, and very few people choose life partners based on sexual attraction alone. also - the major point that blows this s**t out of that water - was the part you mentioned about college women often being hot. also note the author picked a ridiculous example too - schwarzenegger's wife is much more stereotypically beautiful/slim than the other woman.