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08 Dec 2011, 6:03 am

Well, miracles do happen:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bICFrEkbvCg[/youtube]

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08 Dec 2011, 7:51 am

Grisha wrote:

Well, miracles do happen:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bICFrEkbvCg[/youtube]

Super props for this, Grisha. :lmao:

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08 Dec 2011, 10:14 am

nat4200 wrote:

I'm a man and I find this repugnant, why is it that you believe only women would be offended?

this was pretty much my reaction, but i was interested to see what other people thought. the various responses are fascinating.

personally, i don't have any empathy or sympathy for someone who has such specific tastes in partners as then a person is perpetuating their own problem. i don't believe for a moment that a person's tastes must remain so incredibly specific that he or she can't even handle dyed blonde hair instead of natural blonde hair. we are not born being attracted to one type which then remains static for life; tastes change.

if a person has no success getting their "type" then they can turn that problem around by becoming more open-minded and less exclusive. expecting a higher being to turn the problem around by intervening (and even asking other people to get on board) is not a reasonable request. further, i may be misunderstanding, but the OP seems to be able to get a partner, just not the partner he prefers.

truly, i have absolutely no respect for any higher power that would intervene to get someone a natural blonde partner instead of feeding a hungry child or stopping a disastrous flood or doing something useful.

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08 Dec 2011, 1:15 pm

hyperlexian wrote:

i don't believe for a moment that a person's tastes must remain so incredibly specific that he or she can't even handle dyed blonde hair instead of natural blonde hair. we are not born being attracted to one type which then remains static for life; tastes change.

Ok, I am having a hard time understanding this. Admittedly I don't understand physical attraction at all.

But how is preferring a color any different from preferring a gender? Why is a person able to choose and change what color hair or skin attracts them, but not whether they are heterosexual, homosexual, or whichever?

Even if the attraction to genders is pheremonal ("smelling" genetic makeup), it seems possible that racial bias could be the same. How can anyone know what part of attraction is cultural programming, and which part you are born with? So confusing.

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08 Dec 2011, 2:21 pm

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08 Dec 2011, 2:32 pm

Burnbridge wrote:

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well, most people (but not all) are born liking a certain gender or both. but their attraction for other aspects will change. so one aspect is fixed (for nmost people) and the other one will vary over a lifetime. some people can even intentionally change their preferences. so when people say they like a certain type, the evidence indicates it is not something that is fixed and unchanging or genetic or whatever.

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08 Dec 2011, 2:33 pm

nat4200 wrote:

I got the impression that this was not the case, and assumed the OP was not able to find a partner blonde or otherwise (mostly based on the way "virginity" was included in the original post)

hard to say. he indicated:

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But, because true real blondes are so rare throughout the world, I feel stuck with something that I don't prefer as much.

so i dunno if he has already dated someone non-blonde or not.

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08 Dec 2011, 2:41 pm

hyperlexian wrote:

truly, i have absolutely no respect for any higher power that would intervene to get someone a natural blonde partner instead of feeding a hungry child or stopping a disastrous flood or doing something useful.

i don't think any higher power would be like a human being in the sense of having to prioritise things and pick one over another

i don't have anything to say on the original topic. i don't think it's bad, i don't think it's good

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08 Dec 2011, 2:54 pm

hyperlexian wrote:

Ah, ok. I think I understand you as saying that there is a common experience of people changing color preference, but it is very rare to change gender preference? Empirical evidence. I can accept that. Am still curious about the why and how one of those came to be fixed and the other not. Maybe I should just chalk that one up to "humans don't know everything" and move on.

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I did just have one other thought though, which is that I can sympathise with the OP wanting someone with a natural hair color. I personally find hair dyes and makeup and perfume to be repulsive in their inherent falseness (paradox: I do like tattoos!). I may not be attracted to people, but I am certainly repelled by some of the things people do to themselves.

So I would think that if one did have a color preference in humans, preferring the honest representation of that would be quite natural. Saying "he should be ok with someone who dyes their hair," in my mind, is like saying "he should be ok when people lie to him to tell him what he wants to hear (or see)."

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08 Dec 2011, 3:15 pm

OneStepBeyond wrote:

hyperlexian wrote:

i was taking his "god" at face value - he seems to believe in a god that grants personal requests, so if a god granted a personal request like his over the personal request of someone truly in need, i'd not respect him/her/it.

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08 Dec 2011, 5:03 pm

I've asked the Blonde Goddess to create you a blonde chick.

I went to Venus temple in the Beqaa valley and I said something like: "O Blonde Goddess!! ! please create a blonde chick so jkimsingle feels lonely no more!"

Blonde Goddess: ****THUNDERING****

Things didn't turn out as I expected though.