Relationships with younger or older partners

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I was givin the chance to date someone 3 years older than me. Not sure if she would have said yes but a mutual friend was pushing it on us. I didn't go for it because she is older than my sister which I find wierd (atleast at te highschool age). I'm always the youngest so that option is out too. My current GF is only 6 months older so I chose close to, it my current and prefered

I'm sorry, I forgot to rephrase the poll question. This thread was originally to target males but to avoid being misogynist, or anti-other. I used partners for the thread.

I considered the aspect of there being aspie "cougars" and similar situations.

It seems Female aspies are better at securing a relationship. Yeah, I wish I had girls develop fanaticism for me; Im always getting these wierdo younger dudes act like I'm a Messiah and probably would kill people for me. Essentially, I don't like dudes worshipping me, girls: yes.

Anyway, I like the responses to this thread, Bloom has provided excellent data. Seems us aspies do better with people in different age groups.

I could imagine having a harem of 4 wonderful and cute young girls running around a condo, sleeping in the same bed with me,although this just a fantasy.

Back to topic. Yeah, if your bi,homosexual, or trans, please tell of your experiences.

I'm single but I'll admit I've always leaned towards older because I like their maturity and I feel more at their speed intellectually. At this point I've liked women around the 25 to 30 range. However age isn't the most important thing and if I found an amazing 19 year old, I'd certainly date her too but I don't see that as likely at this point.

Ha! This was actually a kind-of joke around my work (the clinic, not the lab). It started to get a little weird for me, so I asked that it stop. It mostly has ... but once a reputation develops...

In any event, I've always been open about who I am, and what I do. I don't lie well... in a general sense. Last year I went to an international chemical-engineering symposium and met a very, VERY intelligent young man with whom I had an interesting time. He came to see me in my city... I were getting on famously, though, both of us knew it couldn't really go anywhere (I'm living life, he's developing his). He came to the clinic one day, and while the girls at the clinic thought he was cute, one made the comment, "Isn't this one a little too old for you?" He was 18.

Neither he or I laughed.

NTs base a lot of what they believe on what they see or hear. They use very little critical or analytical cognitive skills. It didn't matter that the gent I was seeing was an international scholar, working on an advanced degree in biometrics, or that we spent most of the time talking about DNA and genetic markers (not to say that other, more adult, things didn't happen).

To them it was simply an older woman seeing a much younger man. I was a cougar, and he was a pet. How de-humanizing is THAT? :-/

Attwood talks about the "intellectual orgasm" among the neurologically atypical.

I'm certain there are many of us that date according to various non-physical standards (including age or gender, such as myself), just as I'm sure there are those of us that date just like anyone else in the world does: does this person stir my pants? Yes? ZING! In this regard, I think there's room for some Boolean Logic. Here, I believe, is a place that demonstrates the meshing of both typical, and atypical desires and fantasies.

For instance, there's nothing inherently "aspie" about wanting a harem of young women. As a matter of fact, some might call it *very* typical.

Just a side note, by the by, if ever there's a point in your life in which you get the opportunity to fulfill this fantasy - and I hope there is! - you're going to regret it. There's just a matter of logistics! For instance, did you know all those girls are going to eventually sync their menstrual cycles? That they're going to NOT all want to sleep in your bed because of positional preferences? That there's a *reason* cultures in which men have multiple wives tend to keep those wives in separate houses? HA! Boy are you in for it! >.>

It's like people who talk about having sex on the beach. SURE it sounds great...

Until you've done it.

And you spend a week or two recovering. HA! Romantic is NOT digging half a cup of gooy sand out of your hoohoo

Have fun with that image

I generally date older guys, it's the only time I've been able to connect with a guy.

Having said that, even though they are older, they don't always necessary have the level of "maturity" I'm looking for, as and soon as it turns out they don't (because they were acting like they did), things get diffiuclt. I need a certain depth and maturity to keep me interested and that is something that very few people could provide, I imagine.

I've never dated a girl, though I would not rule it out as I have always been a bit attracted to them.

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THESE ARE THE ONLY TWO THINGS I SAW IN YOUR POST >.>

HA!

<3 Kjas

I mean... <3 Maru Tity

Freudian slip

No, in all seriousness I am just extremely tired, have no spellcheck and my english is going.

I can't spell for nada on a good day. Excuse the mistakes.

Oh hell no

I'm going to slip my Freudian all over those Maru tity jokes.

YOU. ARE. MINE.

HA!

*slip*

Hmm,

Ex wife 1 is three years younger, Ex wife 2 10 years. Talking to two women now, one is 10 years younger, the other 2 years. It's not really a preference, I just end up dating younger women.

Well I must say, Keep going! This is excellent data!

Yeah I seem to usually associate better with younger Girls (and people) probably cause I get some innate respect or I seem like the adult.
I'm kinda used to having a small gang of younger people following me (Thank God I'm not a hebephiliac, LOL ), they just seem to flock to me, happens everytime to me.

And bloom, the harem thing is just a fantasy. I'm not going actually do it, besides one girl is enough for me, .

Yeah I'm starting to think that aspies were the first ones to start certain things. The cougar thing probably got made up by aspie woman who thought,"why can't I just go out with someone younger, men do it all the time so why can't I"

I am not sure about giving off an ''adult'' vibe.It is quite common for Aspie's to look much younger than their actual age.I have always attracted much younger women .

My 1st girlfriend was 5/6 years younger than me; I was 20 & she was 15 .My 2nd girlfriend was 9 years younger than me; I was 28 & she was 19. & my 3rd(& probably last) is only a couple months older than me. I thought I would do better with someone who was a bit younger with me till I got my current girlfriend. I'm immature in some ways, I'm dependent, I'm at a lower stage in my life & unlike the stereotypical Aspie in a relationship; I'm very emotionally supportive of my partner. I thought someone older than me or my age would take on a parent type role with me & I did NOT want a relationship feeling like I was being mothered. I thought things would be more balanced & equal in a relationship with someone younger & I also felt I'd be more appealing to someone younger. I never thought the age differences were a problem with my exes. I should note that my 2nd & current girlfriend are not NT & my 1st was NT but had sever dyslexia, ADHD & a little OCD & some emotional issues. My current is very different from women her age & I think our relationship is going pretty good.

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Interestingly, this might be one explanation of why I attract younger men... I look (and sometimes act) younger than I am.

Hrm...