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NorthPark
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28 Jun 2012, 9:52 pm

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-If your disability (the one with the social awkwardness) is mild, you might want to not put it in dating profile. What's the point anyway

-The women turned you down because a). You aksed her out too soon b) you seem desperate or c) they just don't plain like you as more than a friend.


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It's a dating site, not a medical record. Unless it's super obvious, don't list disabilities and health issues on dating sites. Do you see people on dating sites say "well, I'm a diabetic... and also have a thyroid problem?" No? No.

And, it does sound like you asked them too soon or something. Why not ask someone on dates, spend time together, and let the relationship develop naturally?



THANK YOU! Its probably the best advice. I could be wrong though. HIV and Herpes are exceptions though


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30 Jun 2012, 2:26 pm

Other then not listing your disabilities. How well do you know these women you are asking to be in a relationship with? Have you even met them, gone out on dates? If not, its too early. I wouldn't recogmend you asking anyone to be in a relationship with you until you've gone out on at least a few dates and things are going well.

I tried an experiment were I listed my Aspergers on my profile and well I even got guys messaging me telling me to take it off, which was not something I expected. I got so nervous about it, I ditched the experiment after a day.



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30 Jun 2012, 9:22 pm

I never listed mine when I was dating. I was private about it. I don't like to be defined by my conditions.


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01 Jul 2012, 7:58 am

Just pretend you dont have autism, because when they figure out you 'may' it won't be as bad as admitting it and having them like 'oh, AUTISM? rly? k, cya!' lol. some people are ignorant but you'd probably figure out later on if you pass that stage, or not.



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01 Jul 2012, 10:14 am

hvtitan08 wrote:
All my adult life, I've been going from dating site to dating site - from InterracialDatingCentral.com to ChristianDatingForFree.com - and, as truthful as possible, I put in my dating profile that I have 5 disabilities, from Autism to Dyscalculia, and every time I talk with a woman and I start to feel affection for her, I ask her would she like to be in a relationship with me, she turns me down. I don't know if she's turning me down because of my autisticness, or if it's something I'm saying or doing.
I remember when I was in 1st grade, way before I was diagnosed with AS, I kissed a girl on the cheek, and that very same day - after the sun went down - at about 6:54pm, she called me and told me that we were boyfriend and girlfriend. Then, in second grade, she had dumped me because I had parted from her and went to another elementary school. I feel sad and heartbroken.


It really depends on the severity of your autism. If it's mild, then the answer is yes. But if it's severe enough that you're visibly abnormal to those who see you in public even before they meet you, it's not likely. The more obvious a difference is, the more unattractive it is to normal women. All the women I've been with have been abnormal in some way(a grand total of 3 mind you).



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01 Jul 2012, 1:04 pm

"normal" women do date guys with autism. I am proof of that! Unfortunately, I was not educated about autism, Aspergers, etc at the time I dated the love of my life. I believe she may have also had some form of autism. Neither of us knew and I think it caused our relationship to implode. I am happy with my life today, but I think if we had known better we would have worked everything out and be together today.

If anything, I think my dating life will be better now that I know more about me. I would never volunteer any info about being autistic until you get to know somebody better. There are a lot of misconceptions out there. Just have fun and enjoy the person for awhile!