Worst Mistake of My Life?

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Alright thanks for the input. Maybe I don't regret it as much now. I did throw up a lot and the whole thought of puking on her makes me glad I didn't. STDS are a big concern although I doubt she had anything. I don't really mind losing my self through drunk sex as in tired of being a virgin. I need sex as a confidence booster and a way to feel more manly. I probably could have performed but it would have took some time and may have not been worthwhile. My biggest fear is dying a virgin. I seriously lack social and relationship skills and drunk sex seems the most probable way for me to get laid. Alcohol lowers the barriers that I have. I also don't see myself as relationship material.

in my experience drunk sex isnt as bad as they make it sound (or im a better drunk than most)

The main reason why I brought this up was to discuss being paranoid about my dirty room. Let's say I didn't or wouldn't throw up, then was it stupid of me to deny sex based on having a dirty room and feeling embarrassed about it?

Yeah you should probably get contraception in the future, in case something like this comes up again. It's better safe than sorry.

I highly doubt that was the very last time you will have the opportunity to have sex. I think you did the right thing. Don't sweat it!

The state of your room isn't that big a concern during the college years. Especially if it's just a hookup. Most of the young college guys that I went out with back in the day had very messy places. One guy I dated back then shared a house with three friends. It was an old two story that had gone to hell in a handbasket and had been built in something like 1920. The basement was literally full of beer cans. Thats where they would throw them. The whole place was a mess. Looking back my skin crawls, but at the time it didn't seem odd for a guy that age. His sheets that were originally white were grey, he hadn't washed them in so long.

Now, if you were a divorced middle age man then your housekeeping would be held to a higher standard.

I wouldn't sweat the room.

The main problem is like others said, not being able to get it up, not being able to get off if you do get it up therefore stretching it out into a long pointless session of monotonous repitition (to the girl anyway), waking up with a girl who you would rather chew your own arm off than wake up before you sneak out, getting a nasty surprise in a day or two when you go pee.

Last summer I was at this party, right? It was a girl who I barely know's birthday but she invited me anyway. We were all drunk and dancing and having a good time. My husband had already gone home. There was a young boy there about 21 or so who had been talking to me all evening - not like that, I think he felt safe because I reminded him of his mother. There was a girl coming on to him real strong. He told me he was a virgin. All that girl wanted was sex and I advised him to go for it. He asked how, since they were at the birthday girls house and he was too drunk to drive. I told him to take the girl in the bathroom and exactly what to do. He did.

The girl left at some point in the early morning hours. Not having a ride I was still there, and I was also still wide awake. He was so upset after that he came and sat by me on the couch and told me how upset he was about the whole thing. He even went and got in one of the empty beds in the house and asked me to just come sit by him and bring him a cool rag for his head, which I did, and sat there on the edge of the bed and patted him and listened while he basically cried that it wasn't like he had envisioned it.

I told him that those kind of things rarely are, and I felt bad about advising him to do that with the girl since he was sensitive about it. I asked if he was going to call her and he said no, plus he didn't remember her name or what she looked like. I didn't know what to say except to just forget about it and find a girl that he likes and then that will be his real first time. I felt so sorry for the little fella there, but he had seemed into her and she was obviously into him and they were the same age. I didn't take into account that he may very well have been terribly shy or socially awkward since most of his conversation at a party mainly filled with people his age was with a lady old enough to be his mother.

So, that boy had a bad experience with his first time, and I'd bet you cash money that many, many boys have had the same type of experience. I'd suggest this. Decide how you feel about sex. Are you ok with some anonymous sex with a girl you don't care about and will never see again? Do you feel there should be some degree of attachment, or respect? If so, then you did the right thing the other night. If not, then force yourself to either not worry about your room or just clean it up.

I would also suggest finding out something about the girl too. If it's her first time (you'll be able to tell) or if she's just got over a bad breakup, you may have a clinger on your hands. Unless you want that, don't do it.

I don't think it was a bad mistake. I think you actually thought with the organ about three feet above the normal organ that drunk guys think with.

Good luck.

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I always figured i first need to be able to get a girl home before i can worry about wether theres a mess in my room or not