Imaginary girl/boyfriend

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So have I.

Same. I just choose attractive (in a specific way) and female mostly because it'd be too weird/distracting being straight and all. It does mean however that I have to be little spoon if I want to keep the energy more platonic.

What I'm learning is that positive self-talk via this channel can pass most of the usual filters, even profoundly move/touch you. In a way if you do it right you really are taking the bull by the horns so to speak and managing your own reality by doing this rather than having the outside world dictate it all the way. The funny thing - the more I read up on consciousness, matter, and spirituality the claim is made strongly that to let the outside world dictate your reality is the tail wagging the dog anyway so having an imaginary simpatico is more than healthy from that perspective.

I never came up with my own 'imaginary bf/gf' but as I am attracted to very few real people, I used to pick fictional characters I identified with from books and think of them in kind of that way. It was a substitute for the crushes and flirtations most people probably have, and a way of constructing a personal bond that I couldn't experience in real life.

I don't think there's anything wrong with things like that. When you're alone it can be comforting to imagine someone who understands you.

Some might argue that it's a form of escapism that discourages forming interpersonal relationships, but I think that like any form of fantasy, you can use it to reflect on what you want in the real world and strengthen your sense of self. In Tolkien's terms, it's a form of sub-creation, which supports an appreciation for the primary world rather than undermining it.

I think my imaginary person is a clone of me. Not really a girlfriend then, but to fill the time. I guess speaking in 3rd person to myself is what happens most of the time.

i do that very often. i can imagine almost everything although im fully aware that it is not real at any given time and sometimes it is people. sometimes people i could love, sometimes people who are just being my friend. they are always fictional. i think that i am simply incompatible with real people. i doubt that i could like cuddling with a real person because it (especially the touching) would drive me mad and i do not find conversations with real people sufficient in a way because they are either superficial and very boring to me or i feel too low functioning to understand the other person and even when i find them smart and very likeable i can not say anything to them (let alone something that would establish such a thing as an actual relationship to another person) because i just can not comprehend them. social interactions are always stressful because of the sensory input in the surrounding and im always occupied by trying to figure out what would be appropriate to say rather than what i would want to say. real people are also not predictable to me and i do not feel safe and calm around them because of it. it is like in reality im always seperated from other people by the barriers of our skulls. there are no barriers within my mind.

nope, but I do have guardians... that I can't see some how

Does wearing a fake wedding band at a bar count?

I also go as far as writing stories about my fictional woman.

I used to do that- never been to a bar, but when I was out and about, because I hoped it would lessen the likelihood of being commanded to "SMILE!" or being asked awkwardly how my day was going in the spice aisle @ Kroger.
I soon realized the types who wander up to strangers are oblivious to wedding rings, or flat-out don't care.

I've done this to an extent where it would at times take over my reality. Therefore it's now something I try to avoid as I find it to be particularly detrimental to my spiritual and emotional health.

It's pretty much a necessity for me now.

I had a dream girl but resisted to some extent to play into an imaginary girlfriend out of fear that I could get crazy(er).

Then I met the girl of my dreams who was pretty darn close to the dream girl in many ways. I married her.


Then I ruined everything with too many meltdowns and acting the wrong way/taking things the wrong way.

Now I won't imagine any and can look at any woman and be 100 percent sure that if I even had a chance I "would ruin it".

Now I'm basically just here to piss on the world till I die.

George Costanza is that you?

ahh yes, the imgainary girlfriend, don't I know that story all too well.
yes, I have one, she's been with for most of my life.

I don't know how it happened, but maybe she came to exist do to my lonlyness.
anyway, I named her Lola Violet, (becuase Lola's my fave name, and Violet is my fave color)

I've always known what she looks like, how her voice sounds, how she behaves, etc.
I wish I could help. I'm good at designing characters and persoanlitys for them.
to tell ya the truth, I'm torn between two imaginary girlfriends.
Lola Violet, and Gloria Grey, I can't decide who I love more.

I do this sometimes too.

Naaaaw.

I knocked up my imaginary girlfriend.
We had a shotgun wedding.
Now were in the middle of a nasty imaginary divorce.